It's a subtle situation, things don't happen straight at my face but I can see that it's really bad... I wouldn't like to talk to my boss or anyone about that as I feel I represent the minority at the company...
2007-10-05 16:38:01 · 21 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I haven't really anything to add to the advice already given but you could try ringing the Bullying At Word Advice Line - 0870 60 70 310. I've also posted a few links below though , which I hope will help. All the best.
2007-10-05 19:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put up with it! You have rights, just like everyone else there! You have the right to feel like you are being treated with respect and are being treated fairly.
Stand up for yourself and the next time you notice a whisper or a snide, quick remark, turn it into a BIG deal and embaress the person. Make them know what it's like to be on the receiving end of the stick and say "What's your problem? Is your life so horrible you have to try and make others misrable so you can feel better about yourself?"
Bullies only bully because they have issues themselves! Not to mention they only do it to people they think are weaker than them and can't stand up for themselves. Let them know you won't stand for it and if it continues, don't just make threats, take it to a higher level out of your workplace if your boss won't do anything (whether that be legal action, talking to your union, or whatever). It's against the law to harass others, and the workplace is no exception! Good luck!
2007-10-05 16:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and done that. I knew how you felt and I urge you do not take a matter in your own hand. If you can walk away do it. But, if it happens straight at your face, you need to wait the situation before you react. If your Boss is the ugly guy then you need to drop dead. There is no way you can go Solo but, if you have a good Lawyer friend you need he or she to teach about how to say the right word. At the same time if you want to fight back I advice you to recruit a grass root of friends. I am sure you know what to do next.Good luck my friend.
2007-10-05 17:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and talk to your boss after a frank and private discussion with the perpetrator(s). Do not threaten them. Do mention that you'd like to resolve the situation, but they are pressing on your goodwill and if it doesn't end, you will find a more serious way to deal with it. Make it clear what you dislike and why it must stop but don't seem vulnerable or stressed. Those symptoms of sensitivity which their behaviors are intended to play into. This is why they picked you out, not that it's your fault. My whole life I have had to contend with people thinking it's excusable to treat me badly or in an inconsiderate fashion and now I refuse to put up with it even if I seem rude. I just say, "forget it." I walk away. I refuse to give in. I won't deal with them.
2007-10-05 16:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep track of what is going on. Record dates, and what is done, how and when. You'll need to follow the rules set forth by the company for filing a grievance. Your supervisor needs to know that you have a concern, but do not wish to discuss it with him, or her, next is their supervisor, all the way to the HR department. Covert hostility, something that is hidden yet is still real, is still an issue that needs to be addressed. You do have rights, and should not have to live with. The EEO office is there to help with such issues, and that without repercussion against you. The problem is, as with all things, people will still know that something is going on, and are usually able to figure out who is behind what. The problem for them is that anything they do, can go against them. Stand up for yourself, just be ready to go through difficulties before things get better.
2007-10-05 16:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police if anyone is breaking a law.
If not you can,
1. Complain to the boss and risk further alienation.
2. Quit and tell the boss why, maybe he will fix the problem.
3. Quit.
4. Put up with it.
2007-10-05 16:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by wmm4786 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You beat it in a subtle way as well; You have to pretend that everything is ok and ignore it, even if it annoys you; being in the minority makes you powerless and only quitting the job sets you completely free.
2007-10-05 16:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's subtle, the chances are they know they are doing it. If I were you, I would stand up to the main person who is causing it all (even if your unsure if they really are or not), and tell them you've had enough of their crap. They wont be expecting you to stand up to them (because of the subtleitality of it all) & will scare them off. Make sure you tell them that telling your bosses wont help the situation & that they should back off & grow up.
2007-10-05 16:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harassment on the job is illegal and could be grounds for reprimand or dismissal for the offending party. It's always best to bring the situation to the attention of a superior ...
2007-10-05 16:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by momonay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to stop and look them dead in the eyes . if they carry on talk to the the head of the company . Also try for 1 day ignoring them somtimes they see if u dont care they then they they cant bully you .
2007-10-05 20:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Edward C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋