there's a lot of girls at my school that say i'm a s.lut because of the way i dress. i don't even act like a s.lut. i mean i don't go around and take people's bf's or whatever. yes i do admitt that i wear low-cut tops but they're not like over the top low-cut. and i do break the dress code with my shorts and tank tops and stuff but that's not reason to judge me before you know me. what's your opinion?
2007-10-05 16:14:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The other girls are jealous because they don't look as good as you do in those type of clothes :) Ignore them and get on with things.
2007-10-05 16:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You aren't a s.lut, but the way you dress can certainly lead people to say this. A s.lut is someone who sleeps with lots of people.
It's right to judge you about being wrong in the way you dress when you admitted you break the dress code. Have a little more modesty...I am surprised you don't get sent home if you are breaking the code. No offense, but girls who dress the way you do are highly distractive in schools, especially for young men. And I'm not saying that to be flattering. Dress as your school asks you to and dress skantily at home if your parents like it so much.
2007-10-06 00:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dressing as what the boys call a "prick tease."
If other high school girls are objecting to the way that you dress then you clearly are exceeding the social standards of your school and dressing too provocatively.
A s.lut is a person who engages in sexual activity too easily, so if you don't do that then you are being misjudged, but if you dress the way you do then the girls think you are acting like a prostitute. School is not a place to dress like a prostitute. Sure some guys like that, but you will usually not like those kind of guys (unless you are really a s.lut).
It might be better to dress more like a professional so you will be taken seriously and not treated as whore. If you dress that way in public life, as an adult, then you will be treated like that. Try a new make over and see how things change, you may find an improvement in not just how the girls treat you, but how the teachers treat you and how the boys treat you.
There is a reason for a dress code and while you may be comfortable in those kind of cloths you make others uncomfortable and you are only asking for scorn and ridicule to be brought down upon you.
Right now I am wearing a pair of shorts and slippers, but I at home alone and I refuses to go out dressed like that in public, I have more pride in myself than that. I also take a shower when I go out because I don't want to smell bad. It sounds so simple and basic that it is almost stupid, but dressing properly is that basic and that simple. You haven't gotten that point yet and your girlfriends are trying to give you a subtle hint without using a hammer on your head. It sounds like you may need one.
Sure if I was a teenage guy I would love looking at a girl dressed like you, but then I also subscribe to Playboy. If you are trying to pose for Playboy then keep dressing like you are, if you are not trying to live your life in that style or as a Porn Queen then you might want to dress a little more conservatively.
Normally, I don't like peer pressure among children, often it is done to make the peers feel better than the one they are oppressing, but sometimes it has a purpose and this is one of those times. Now if you want to be treated like someone who works in the Porn industry (and most men think of them like they think of toilet paper; something to be used and discarded) then please keep dressing like you are.
Is it wrong to judge you just by the way you dress; well sort of. First you don't want to behave like a s.lut or be treated like one, but you are dressing and so acting like one. It is a sad fact of life that people DO judge a book by its cover, and what you wear does make an impression on other people, the first impression they have of you. If you want to make a good impression then you might want to dress differently.
No, this isn't the best answer; it is the honest answer and maybe one that you need to hear. Remember that the image you project is what people first see and how they judge you. It is pre-judging you, but we all do that.
2007-10-05 23:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dan S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No one should judge anyone because of how they dress, but there's a thing called first impressions.
And since we're only human and prone to make mistakes, we'll judge you anyway.
I'd probably think you were a $lut too. But hey, we all make mistakes.
Ease it up on the low-cut tops and don't break the dress code by wearing shorts and tank tops.
So it's great if you wear low cut tops some of the time, but if you're wearing one more than twice a week you probably would want to rethink your wardrobe. Besides, it's nearing Fall now so I'd doubt you'd want to wear low-cut things.
Good luck!
2007-10-05 23:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by charlotte 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ell the way u dress refects ur ppionion on how u feel about sex! i mean come on if u didnrt wear such revealing clothes guys wwouldntt be talking to u as much... its ok to wear low cut clothes once in a while .. but not all the time .. u got to get the guys respect.. b/c later things will become worse.. if girls think that imagine what the guys think!!!! so change b/c when rumors starty it will be very hard to end them
2007-10-06 12:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are really going around and sleeping with all the guyz, tell them get a life its your style your body.
the people that call you slut are insecure about themselves both mentally, and physically(they dont dress, low cut tops, etc ). Breaking a dress code is your OWN personal choice, and the time a change should come around is when you choose that option to dress at a different standard.
Worry about what you think about yourself, not what others think of you....
2007-10-05 23:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by D's Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're turning yourself into a sex object and easy by dressing like a bad girl in revealing clothing and are asking for trouble and you ask if you are a bad girl? Dress modestly. Cover yourself so you don't attract attention unless you want to risk getting raped and pregnant or get a disease.
2007-10-06 01:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a "s.lut" is someone that has physical relationships this multiple guys. So unless you're having physical relationships with many guys those girls are wrong.
2007-10-06 01:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cam. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be wearing revealing clothes like that at school. And as long as you continue to wear clothes like that, people are going to call you all sorts of names that may or may not be true.
2007-10-05 23:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by qυєєи of му cαsтlє ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's just peoples first impression, and everyone has one, you just can't help it. But your right they shouldn't judge you before they get to know you. I don't really know how to help you change their minds besides just changing how you dress.But you probably don't want to do that because that's just your personality. Sorry i couldn't really help. good luck.
2007-10-06 01:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by dancin'girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY do you dress like that? Do you REALLY think it's okay for SCHOOL. Come on, I'm a teen and I totally disagree
2007-10-05 23:25:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋