My friend hardly talks to me anymore since she's gotten busy. I'm busy too but I would be happy to make time for her if she was up for it. She once said that friendship mostly takes motivation, which we can control. So, with that logic, it means she doesn't care about me anymore, right? She's not motivated to talk to me because she doesn't care, I guess.
Does that mean she was just using me when she used to talk to me everyday before? Because now that she's become busy and has made new friends at her workplace, she doesn't talk to me as much. That would seem like using, but maybe I'm missing something. But I guess I'm not as important to her anymore, either way.
I still love her...she's one of my best friends...but I think she's moved on :[
Tell me a story of your own if you can relate. I'm in a misery loves company kind of mood...
2007-10-05 15:17:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok i got a story so to speak but from the other end of ur story.. ur friend, i have a best friend whom i think feels as u do about urs..the fact of the matter is that u only have 1 true bestfriend and even tho shes not as motivated as she used to be doesnt mean she doesnt love you anymore it just means that she may have things going in her life at this particular time that make her feel as tho she doesnt have the time she wants to spend with she knows that you are her bestfriend and will be there for her no matter what....she may just know you will always be there and that in itself is the security and the strength of your friendship do not worry... call her ask her whens she free next and tell her u miss her... i dont know but i hope this helped a little
2007-10-05 15:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Always Asking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're growing up and started shaping up for your own life. Sometimes, unfortunately, friendship changes too. Two best friends often go their own way to pursue what they want to do. It's normal. But this does not mean your friend cares about you less or anything. It's just that things have changed because of the situation. I would suggest, with situations like this, that you tell her how you feel about it and tell her that you completely support her with everything that she wants to do and you will always be there for her. Let her know that good friends last forever and they're gold! In the meantime, you should do your own thing too and not be too concerned whether she calls you often enough or not. Friendship is a two-way street. By you doing your own thing too, you won't be too focused on her 100%. It isn't anyone's fault or she has moved on or anything. :) Don't take it personally! good luck!
2007-10-05 22:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by garderl.anonymat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend doesn't care for you anymore or used you. Kinda sounds like her life has taken a new road leading to new friends and experiences but that doesn't mean she cares for you any less. The same may happen to you one day a new boy friend maybe a marriage and kids or something different but with the same results. You will be busy and tired and mean to call that person but never get to it. It won't mean if something terrible happened you wouldn't be there for them or when something wonderful. As we age and come upon new responsibilities and the demands in life sometimes that happens. Sad but remember you will always have a friend when you really need one in her and others you meet in the future but fade apart from because of just life and it's new demands.
2007-10-05 22:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change and people move on. This doesn't mean that you have to "break up"...You simply grow apart and may even come back together from time to time. It's weird...But it's a part of life.
2007-10-05 22:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Grace777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i know what you're going true because thats what i'm going through
heres my advice move on orelse your life will be stuck you need to accept the fact that your friend is gone and move on and sometimes give that person a taste of their own medicine
i know doing this will be hard. i am doing it and it is hard but its life
gud luck
2007-10-05 22:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by !urbeauty! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's any comfort to you, life is a series of relationships, beginnings, endings. Some are for life, some not. Good luck;)
2007-10-05 22:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by mmmtarot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if shes now got friends at work and you are on the side looking it its because now she can let you go because she has more with her friends and work then you so you are on he way side now if she loses them she will be back . take care.
2007-10-05 22:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have no idea, I guess your the one to make the decision if u want to still be friends TRY harder.
2007-10-05 22:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAW MAN SHE IS WAITING FOR YOU YOU SHOULD NOT BE WAITING FOR HER (sorry caps locks)
2007-10-05 22:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by no nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋