Personal info, on me: I Had an affair with an old High school boyfriend over 11 years ago!
I left my family divorced my husband and left my son with his father to pursue the relationship!
After the divorce I married the man, and for better or worst got the **** end of the stick, He cheated on me he beat me up so bad I had to have emergency surgery and then left me less then 2 years later for a woman who was barly 23!
the saddest part is that my son to this day wont even speak to me, and I've been told by family members he doesn't trust women at all. I guess you get what you give huh?
Karma in spades!
So let me ask do you think our need for sex dismiss everything else including common scenes to the point that you can't distinguished good from EVIL?
WHat do you think?
2007-10-05 15:15:11 · 19 answers · asked by The Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How the hell am I going to do that my son wont even talk to meafter 10 years and what am I going to do with the fact my son HATES women?
Oh hell have sex with them but he hates my gender!
2007-10-05 15:32:23 · update #1
OK, I have read this over three times and I don't see how strong sex make you do the thing that you did to your family. Your story painted a picture of you being immature, lost focus of what is really important to you in your life and selfish. I don't know why any one who cheat on their partner/companion and leave them for that individual whom they slept with would be faithful to them. If they cheat with you, they soon cheat on you. Sorry I don't agree with the ideal that sex erode your ability to make the right decision from right or wrong. that is where your very own moral values come into place. Common sense would made you to think closely about what you're to do and destroy just for an affair. You made the wrong choice and this is something that you have to live with, for your son, let hope he will find it within himself to not hate women because of your selfish behavior. Just the thought of him hating women I see a young man that would do hurtful things to a good young woman just to get back at you. The damages and the hurt is done, only time will tell the rest of the story.
2007-10-05 16:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's why when you have an affair, you don't get caught or you have an open marriage. We all make mistakes. I think you need to forgive yourself and get some counselling for the abuse you suffered. I don't think you thought it was just sex. I think you were confusing sex with love and thought perhaps the grass was greener on the other side. As for your son, he has no excuse to hate women. He could hate you, but he's a little bastard if he hates women for this. All good and intelligent men are feminists. It's not your fault that your son judges all women by the actions of his mother, that's his own flaw and responsibility.
2016-05-17 07:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case the need for sex seems to have outweighed the need to be a good parent. Maybe you are just extremely self centred and immature. You made a huge mistake. The only thing you can do is learn from it and be a better person. Perhaps your son will learn to respect you over time.
2007-10-05 15:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you were wrong, but you did it anyway. live with it, he has to also, hurt will always be there for the both of you,, some day he will do the same to whom ever he loves too, it runs in the genes i think. hopefully he gets the good stuff from his father and not what you had to offer. sorry to tell you this but you sowed it now live it.. I'm more then sure it has not stopped you from having sex with other people right. and while you are at it you just forget about the past right.. good luck.. i believe the saying is true for you losers always finish last..
2007-10-05 15:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by quitelovableman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust will never outlast love.
Your son may hate you now but keep at it. Eventually you will wear him down and then the two of you can try to have a better realtionship. You love your son, that will never change. Make sure he knows that. You let him know that no one is perfect, we all make mistakes and you made your. You are sorry and will spend the rest of your life trying to make it up to him. Just continue letting him know how much you love him and how hard you will work to have a relationship with him. Someday he will make a mistake, he'll need you then. Good luck.
2007-10-05 15:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you made the biggest mistake of ur whole life. you can find ***** around the corner but ur children never soo now ur paying for what you did to the poor boy. and the need of sex shouldn't have anything to do with ur kids thats completely different unless ur sick, personally if i want to have sex soo bad i'll do it with my hubby when my kids are asleep and if am a slut and i want somebody else other than my hubby then i go to the hotel for a night and come back to my home to my kids but never abandon them for nothing in the world soo good luck to you
2007-10-05 16:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that at all. I don't think I've ever wanted anyone quite that intensely that I lost all sense of reason. (Ironically, I kinda want to know what that feels like), but I have had someone attempt to destroy me with my feelings for her (and I do equate her with evil, so is that the same thing?) But see here's the thing: she suggested I send my daughter away (presumably because we weren't making enough money) so I told her "I'd rather see her go than my child" ( I said that because I thought it was the right thing to say and it was, but inside at the time I really wished she hadn't pushed us to that edge...I would've given anything for her to stay, but she needed to go, and she damned sure did. She was evil, but God was on my side in spite of myself.
2007-10-05 15:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't stop being a person with needs when you become a parent.
That being said, you are behaving in a very selfish manner. I think that you would benefit a lot from some counseling to find out why you do such self- destructive things.
2007-10-05 15:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your selfisness took over. Not just need for sex. Many people feel the same needs but dont act on it. My ex pulled similar stunt. I have kids. Feel bad for her. She never sees the kids. Misses out on cool stuff. Her choices wer always about her and you did the same thing. Sorry that you made the bad choice and sorry for the pain you caused your child and husband but have no sympathy for you.
Agian not your need for sex. Lack of respect for your family and selfishnes and a lack of control over yourself.
2007-10-05 15:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Bob D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Karma is a *, but you deserved what you got. I would never put ANYTHING before my children. You need to try to give the world to your son and give him the love that he needs.
2007-10-05 15:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋