can we make it!!!!!!!!!?

Question

We have so many financial problems at the moment, our relationship is loving, but the arguments caused by stress and worry are tearing us apart, he is finding it hard to get work, he is a qualified tradesman, i own a small business, but its getting to the point where my resources to get money together are running very low, i feel ill most days, with that sick feeling in my stomach, i was an optimistic person, but for the past 6 months, nothing is going right financially.
I have been the strong one, for both of us, now i am at breaking point, in the situation where i am keeping it to myself, because, i could tell friends and family, but they are very judgemental, i know that for a fact, so i feel so alone, can i make it through?? can my relationship survive???

Answer 1

I am in a very similar situation right now. My fiancee works two jobs but has a huge debt to the IRS and the only money we really have is the money I make at work which is barely enough to survive on. I too am the one constantly worrying and trying to figure out how to make ends meet and we too have arguments about this. I feel that you can make it if the lines of communication stay open and you both try to make good decisions and not blame each other for what is going on.

Answer 2

Not if you feel so alone, cause your not alone, your with your spouse in this aren't you? You don't need to talk to others about your problems, what you need to do is talk with your spouse !! You need to let him know how you are feeling and whats bothering you, you two need to really talk and hang in there together! You shouldn't feel your alone in this !! He is in it too so TALK to him and see how he is feeling to ! communication is the number one key when your going through things like this !! If he is really trying to find a job then hang in there with him, he may have to look for a different kind of job though!! Better to have a job then none at all !! Even if it's not what he wants at the time, it's still a pay check to help pay bills !!! so make sure he's looking for others jobs also not just a certain one job! Just because you are qualified at something doesn't always get you the job , sometimes theres no openings in that field or not enough jobs for it. some have to move just to find a job there qualified for cause thers none in their area! maybe he should look for something else i would think,if its been too long and he still not working then i'd say move on to something else, another job field!

Answer 3

Yes, you can! Anything is possible with God! I encourage you to pray about this very hard, every day. Keep working, but don't overdo it, either. You still need time to wind down, and most importantly, although it may be hard, to sleep. You need rest to face tomorrow, and to give you the energy you need to do what you need to do.

Keep showing love to your husband. The two of you need to bond and to help each other through this difficult time. You are the most important person the other one has. Keep encouraging one another. Your love can get you through this, but don't allow this situation to cause your relationship to suffer.

Remember, this is not about your relationship, this is about financial issues. You desperately need one another right now.

I'll pray for you tonight. Get some sleep, share your love, and God bless. I have faith that everything will work out fine.

I've seen many mini miracles as a result of prayer. I can share some with you, or even simply keep in touch if you need a friend to talk to. Feel free to send me a note at ellenoid a t y a h o o d o t c o m.

Answer 4

Don't let money problems tear you apart. Try to find where you can cut expenses. You could disconnect the TV cable or satellite or whatever you have; I know that's hard to do, but there is life away from TV. Also substitute beans for meat 3 times a week. If you love him, it is worth it.

Answer 5

In reading your posting, I was looking for the things about your relationship that are positive and make you happy- but- you didn't mention one of them. This tells me that you are unhappy in this relationship. It sounds like you are bearing the financial load. Yes, this can damage a relationship. You say you are at the breaking point and you have to be strong for the two of you. This sounds like nothing but work to me. What is in it for you? I think you need to reascess the whole situation. You deserve to be happy. There are worse things than being alone.

Answer 6

yes you can. If I remember correctly financial problems is the number 1 reason why relationships don't last. Don't be one of those people. Remember thatt your relationship is based on love for each other, not your wallet size. You can make it work. thinking negative never did anyone any good.

Answer 7

I can understand how you are feeling...been there myself....you have to have faith in one another that all will work out....perhaps getting a book on how to make right financial decisions would be a good idea.....cut back where you can...and keep looking for ways to make more money....Hang in there.....things will get better.

Answer 8

Yes....but you have to stop treating each other like the enemy.

You're a united force in this together....sink or swim....together.

Talk about your problems and promise each other not to feel guilty or place blame.

Financial problems are the worse....but going through it alone is even worse.

Answer 9

Why don't you start worrying about making some sound financial decisions first?

Good luck.

Answer 10

yes your relationship can survive, just pull through and together you both can make it work, ♥