Do some guys just not like foreplay. His idea of foreplay is "come over here" for oral sex. Once he is excited Its wahm bam. No hugging, kissing, nothing. I don't mind a quickie once in awhile but this is getting old fast. When I try to talk to him the responce is its my fault. Is he just a selfish lover or is there hope for him with teaching. Guys whats up with him. I really do not think it is me.
2007-10-05 14:34:27 · 11 answers · asked by Patty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some guys are like that. Not all but most. Trying to change them is to much work. It's much easier to replace them than to change them. He may change for a day or so. Next week he''ll be back to his same lousy lover ways. I would advise not to give him none. Unless he is willing to make an effort at pleasing... Don't do any of those little things he likes so much. Tell him I can't I forgot how to. Act as stupid as he does about sex.
2007-10-05 14:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just that way. Set up a massage shop and tell him he isn't getting any unitl he gives at least 15 minutes to the massage ball and feathers. Some just need extra teaching because they have had to be so quick about it for so long worrying that their parents would walk in on them. That is all they know. Try for a night of nothing but foreplay. No penetration of any kind only touching and kissing and exploring. You would be amazed at the possibilities.
2007-10-05 21:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are alone in this. I think especially when you have been in a relationship for a while sex becomes a little routine and men may have the perception that most women (not me) want it to go fast and hurry up. I feel the best thing is for you to talk very candidly to him about it, if that doesn't work try spicing things up yourself. Try maybe tying him up and only letting him use his mouth :) When he is doing something that you like let him know how much you like it or reward him by doing something he likes as well.
2007-10-05 21:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will continue like this until you change him. DON'T try to discuss this with him because no man wants to hear he is doing something wrong. When he does something right, praise him to high heaven.......I don't believe I am saying this but......think about training him like a dog. Dogs respond to a strong leader and so will your man. If he thinks he is still in charge and running the show and pleasing you then you are more likely to get what you want.
You wont have to fake things just guide him in the right direction to get what you want. Be strong and take his hand and pretend he is the most important man in you life and he will start acting like it.
2007-10-05 22:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to talk about it, just make some changes yourself. Start with kissing and hugging, and don't let him get the goods for awhile, you control the main course on when it is served. When you are ready then serve it up!
2007-10-05 21:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's selfish.....and guys like that don't understand the difference between making love and having sex.
Tell your husband he's fast food and you want a 5 course meal.
2007-10-05 22:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being selfish and lazy but you are allowing him to get away with it. The next time he says come here, you say, No! You come over here and then tell him what you want.
2007-10-05 21:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him.
Maybe get a book that focuses on foreplay with games or food?
2007-10-05 21:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by M.D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to express and demand that your needs be met, or, and this is probaly your best bet, find a better quality of man. We are out there.
Good luck.
2007-10-05 21:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he says "come over here" say "No".
When he asks WHY tell him.
2007-10-05 22:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋