How do you learn to believe in yourself if you haven't been taught that you are worth believing in?

Answer 1

I've been working on that for over 40 years, trying to get myself to believe that I'm worth something, I have people around me that believe it but for some reasons the people who have battered at my self esteem since I was a child seem to win out most of the time!! It's a battle I fight on a daily basis!!

Answer 2

Even ufyou haven't been taught hat you are worth believing, throughout your lifetime you might meet that one friend or companion that will show you that even though you may not be the best, there are still reasons for you to believe in yourself...and for anyone who has been brought up in this fashion it can be quite traumatic and that true friend of yours will have to put in a great deal of effort and faith into persuading to think otherwise. It will be a daily task, pointing out your positive aspects and helping you to come to terms with our not so good aspects but as humans we all have to do that in order to live even semi-happy lives...

Answer 3

This is something I have a real struggle with. I know how good I am at somethings but often repeat after me, I just got away with that one by the skin of my teeth! I also struggle with the suggestion (after becoming an adult ) that I allow my self esteem to be battered and bruised by others. To a certain extent this may seem to be true. I can`t be held responsible for others interpretation or feelings if my intetion was not to offend. Its got to be a happy medium and take time, effort and the desire to move on. Have I done all this? no, I`ll need to work on that self esteem. I have found that joining a theatre group or such has increased my self esteem but not entirely by its self. It`s a constant exercise in recognising it and coping with it.

Answer 4

I think that when you never had any closeness with your Parents, and never did find out about anything, that is not an excuse to say that you can not believe in yourself because of it. You Learn in believing that you are here because for some reason God was the one that send you here for you to find out your self worth. As you continue to grow up, you will eventually find out that you believe in yourself.

Answer 5

It took me many years. But one thing I learned was that we should never ever give up. If you give up, you would never reach your goal. So, to answer your question is that you learn to believe in yourself by NOT relying on someone else or something else for help. Take responsibility for ALL your actions. Including those you think you have no control over.
Then you have no choice but to rely on yourself. Once you do that, you have to start answering for yourself. You take it one step at a time. You don't even have to believe in your self at first. Just follow your heart and it will lead you to take a positive action. But who am I to say anything. You must learn for yourself. Self affirmations help. "I am OK" or "I am doing the right thing" etc. There are many many many books, DVD's etc etc. Every person has their own way. Choose the path that most fits you. Be independent.

Thank you for another soul searching question

Answer 6

Good question, but, like most things, it makes more sense if you turn it around.

It's not that a child lacks instruction in learning self-worth, it's the crushing inevitability of a system of conditioning that starts, sometimes, even before birth.

No matter how well-meaning the parents, siblings, family, peer group, 'educators', friends, and eventually 'significant others', just about everyone is bombarded with 'propaganda' to the effect that they just don't quite ( or worse ) 'measure up' to society's expectations.

Even the advertising industry's activcities are designed to prey on the same basic insecurities, if you don't buy this soap powder or that deodorant then you'll be missing the 'bus' in life.

What is needed is a massive and total 'de-programming' from the systemic crap, and to re-install the original that comes with birth ( and beyond ), that we are just 'perfectly' what we are supposed to be.

All-ways. :-)))

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Answer 7

I would caution you about thinking that you need to be taught a lot of things. One of the greatest advantages humans have is our ability to extrapolate. We can see a pattern, and extend it further, using logic. So as along as you are given the freedom to learn, and enough support as a child to not develop a lot of negative thought patterns, you can discover a lot of things yourself. So I guess what I am saying is open your mind and your heart to the possibilities that are right in front of us. Including the possibility that you are quite wonderful. I'm guessing you will find that you are at least someone you can believe in. :)

Answer 8

That's very true. The fact that you have no faith in yourself how much for other person. Set an example first on one self before others could follow. It is really hard to believe a person who himself is not worthy believing in. Change must comes first from a person. This is the most effective way a person could inspire others. Unless there is no transformation on you. You are not worthy believing in.

Have a wonderful day!

Answer 9

This is something you can carry with you till the end of time if it isn't recognized and dealt with.
Getting around that voice inside that will always make you feel less than you really are.

One thing I have learned is when I look for the best in others, then I can see it also in myself. Everything becomes a learned behavior, and it is just in the learning that one is vital, possesses that potential to be greater than that child, and to accept yourself; and to say it out loud that it is OK. A certain calmness comes with that recognition.

Answer 10

If you haven't bee taught and are tired of not believing in yourself, then hopefully, you will seek a teacher in self belief before circumstances force the issue. Not believing in yourself is a box. Dissolve the box.

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