Do most people CHANGE in the name of LOVE.....?

Question

or LOSS?

Answer 1

I think both Love and LOSS can cause a great deal of change in a person, and sometimes it can be positive in the end, even if you go through a very difficult time. I was only 30 years old when I lost my mom (26 years ago) and I never got over it. Still, I think her passing and other factors in my life at the time forced me to take control of my life and be a better mother myself.

Answer 2

Sad as it seems, it appears that people have a really difficult time changing. If the change is something another is asking, then the person that is trying to meet the challenge of the change, usually winds up not being able to ever meet the expectations of the one asking for the change. But....change can come about. With love, for look at the mother/father that have a child that all of a sudden needs special care, day and night. They rise to occasion and move heaven and hell to take care of their special child.
It can be done it has been done, ...but "its one in a million." You gotta have the desire, the will and the courage to do so.

Answer 3

People change because of the experience of love and loss.
I don't think they change in the name of love or loss.

Answer 4

I think people do change in the name of love especially when you do not get the love that you have given to another hehehehe.......

You learn something from the love you have given say that was not given back to you it is a loss to some extent but if you are smart and you come out of the pain of the situation you will learn something about you and another and you will change because of that love you once had for another good bad etc.....
Love transforms, Love makes you grow, when truly another loves another they want that person to grow and change for the sake of the love to one & the other :))) When their is a loss you change as well you sometimes harden you heart or say you will never love again but you do eventually it just takes time for your love to heal :)))) Either way if you have loved another whether the love was given back to you freely or not that love you have will transform you and you will learn from it about your self good and bad and how you relate to others and whats really important in your life :)))

Answer 5

I don't now about most people but Yes some do change. Some for the better some for worst. I know that one of my friends after he started dating this one girl stopped taking to all of his friends and only talked to her and her friends.

As for if some people change after loss some do. some get happier after they lose certain people. but some do not. Some get depressed and some go to the extremes. It all depends on the person and how they dill with situations.

Answer 6

I do not believe anyone ever truly changes for Love - At least not romantic love. Many individuals feel that they can change their partner if they just love them enough. Change, any relevant change, must first come from oneself.

Loss if felt deeply and humbling can result in change. If you take loss and use it for the sake of pity, then no positive changes will come,and you will fall further into the abyss.

Answer 7

I don't think the person changes, but I think the love does. If people changed in the name of love constantly, and, assuming there being only one love in one relationship, there would never be breakups/divorces.

But they don't necessarily always lose things either. I think in a general sense, excluding big events like cheating, having kids, etc, the people and love itself barely changes- rather the passion between the two

Answer 8

I think people change for both.
Example of changing for love... hookers and strippers have given it up when they finally found real love. Love changes people and makes you see things differently.

Example of changing for loss... some people never get over it and are scarred for life. They may give up friends, not do things they use to find joy in and some are even said to die from a broken heart.

It is how I see it. : )

Answer 9

No, but you can,

STOP! in the name of love
Before you break my heart
Think it over...

But seriously, never EVER EVER change for anyone else. Change for yourself if you must change at all. If you truly love someone, then you will accept them for WHO THEY ARE!!!! There is no need to change.

At first I didn't know what you meant by "or LOSS". But here is one idea. If you lose someone because you didn't change enough for them, then they never really loved you and would never really love the REAL you.

(This of course does not include things like crack addictions. I am talking about regular life changes for the above stuff. Harmful activities are things that fall under the "change for yourself" as much as anything else too. Support can help you quit, but in the end you must do such things for yourself. Love can't be the sole motivator. Sorry. Another idea of "loss" is the loss of a loved one and it too can be a motivator. But still, it comes down to the individual. Change for yourself. You must, or you will never change your harmful ways completely.)

I had no idea the depths of this vague question.

To sum up; mild or major changes must ultimately be made for one's self. To do so, one must have a sense of self value. You need not be beholden to another, alive or dead, in order to change, if indeed change is even needed. If a loved one is demanding change and it is not needed, then they do not love you. If you do need to change because you are doing something harmful, seek help, under any circumstances. Love just might be the motivator to get you started. But in the end, it comes down to you.

Answer 10

They don´t change their personality, but love allows to change behaviour.
Most things are easier to do or to say if you have loving minds and hearts around you, and even if you give away things you would have liked to keep for yourself, it is a loss in a real or material way of sight, but in perspective of love it is a giving or gift.
It´s a mistake to reduce kind behaviour to near familiars or your partner, try it in that elbow-moments queueing in rush-hour in supermarket or bus-station - and don´t be surprised by different reactions as expected.