I am so sick of my husbands ex trying to screw us over.?

Question

What can we do to make her look like a monkey in court? We always pay child support on time, we end up buying all their clothes, their school supplies, their games, toys etc. they are 11, 15, and 16. She gets $2,100 a month in child support....plus all of this other stuff we get for the children. She is taking us back to court after only a year of having it set. My husbands attorney says we are paying more than we have to already. She was supposed to have her car refinanced according to the divorce decree and didn't, she got $40,000 in the divorce settlement and could have easily paid it off..instead she got a tummy tuck any lypo. I am really angry and want revenge without moving the children out of her home because that would upset them....we could because she works nights and weekends and is never home when they are. Any suggestions?..I am sick of the control plays she puts on us. The reason they divorced was because she had a long term affair and became pregnant. Got dumped

I have sat back and done nothing about her for years. She has tried to turn the children against me, tried to have a private detective find out my income, tried to get money out of me from her attorneys because I make more than she does...it does affect me.

Answer 1

"I am really angry and want revenge without moving the children out of her home because that would upset them....we could because she works nights and weekends and is never home when they are." They're all in their preteens and teens nothing wrong with them being home without her when she is working. You CHOSE to marry a man who came with baggage and now that baggage is crimping YOUR lifestyle. Too bad sweets this is what you get. Maybe you should have CHOSEN a man who didn't have a life before you came along. I'm getting the feeling that THAT is what is really bugging you. You don't like being reminded that there will ALWAYS be someone before you in your husband's life.

Answer 2

i don't mean to be rude but i am being honest. anything you buy for the children is considered a gift according to state law. it is never considered or combined alongside the child support. it's not even looked at. what she did with the divorce settlement was her business. she will have to answer to the car not being refinanced, but as long as she is making the payments on it....judge won't do much to her but tell her to get it done. (again)
as far as her going back to court to get an increase, she has to have a really good reason like increased school expenses or health costs. most increases aren't considered earlier then every 3 years.
bring your receipts for child support, that's the only thing that will do any good.
if don't want to pay any more money STOP BUYING EXTRA STUFF!!! you don't get bonus points in court for that.

Answer 3

I would tell the judge in a sensible and reasonable tone exactly what you've said here. Bring receipts for the clothes and toys and games and the extras. Make sure the judge is aware that this is freely given but that you feel that her spending child support income on her own personal matters is not appropriate.
Also, if you truly feel you can be a more stable influence for the children, and are willing to have them live with you, then let the judge know that also. It sounds like she is out for revenge money and does not have the kids interest at heart. They will adjust to living with you if it really is the better place for them.

Answer 4

Keep all your receipts. Maybe if one of you didnt bring in so much money then you could get the amount taken down, considering you buy everything else for them.What is she taking you to court for? If you spend all that money on the kids make sure you take ALL recepits and have her show proof of what she spends on the kids and then you will make her look like a greedy monkey

Answer 5

your husband should be the one to do anything, unless he enjoys seeing you and the ex battle it out, or unless he is the type guy who lets his spouse handle finances because he can't.
Take all your bills with you to court , and have a talk with the kids and see if it really would upset them to be with you instead of her - which would save you all that child support. Igf they are happy when they visit you and alone too much when they are with her, they may be happy to make the change and it is just a question of how that would affect you to have them with you.

Answer 6

by_I_Love....you're wrong. It is about her because she is married to the ex. It is THEIR money now that her husband is forcing over. No offence, but please read the question before you answer....

Anyways...

What I would do is make sure you keep all your reciepts and bank statements proving that you guys are making your payment and making a ton of purchases too. Go to court that day and be completely honest. Tell the Judge you dont' want to take the kids out of the home but you're concerned with her parenting because she doesn't seem to put the kids first.

Also, have you guys considered taking the kids? Not permanently, but maybe instead of her having full custody and you guys have visits, switch? I'm sure your hubby would like to see his kids more and it would also save you guys money since he wouldn't be paying her child support.

Seems to me like she will make herself look like the monkey in court. Just be honest and I'm sure everything will work out.

Answer 7

you make absolutly no sense. You say she hired a private detective to see how much you make but guess what? IT IS IRRELEVENT! You do not support her kids.Her ex husband does. What he pays has no bearing on your salary.

I feel tyou added that to the story so honestly I question your honesty in everything you said.

Answer 8

You're acting like this is all about you.
She's done nothing to you. Stay out of it, you'll be much happier that way.
There's no need to make her look like a monkey, if she really is one, she'll do that to herself.
Anger and bitterness never got anyone anywhere.
You can't control other people, only how you react to them - that's what defines who we TRULY are as people.

Answer 9

well, seems like your upset over the child support which
is for the kids. You married this guy, with these issues, so
you should accept those responsibilites with him.
if you want more money which seems like you feel its coming out of your pocket....hmmmm get a job.

Answer 10

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