...the idea of a women keeping or hyphantating her last name when she get married?
If her fiance/husband is cool with it, why is it so wrong?
2007-10-05 13:19:11 · 18 answers · asked by Megegie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if any children a couple may have will take the father's lastname only.
2007-10-05 13:20:16 · update #1
Why is the wife always expected to take a different last name and not the husband?
2007-10-05 13:25:24 · update #2
I have no freakin idea! But I have heard the same thing too... One women ( a supervisor ) actually called me crazy for not being willing to change my last name. It has nothing to do with them, it's about you and your betrothed. Screw everyone else... Narowminded- old fashioned, simple.
2007-10-05 13:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe a family should be a unit. Hyphenating just makes it so complicated. What is so wrong about taking the husbands name anyway? It is respectful and taking a step in another chapter of your life. If you want your own name don't marry and certainly don't have children. A name is only a name. If you don't respect your husband enough to take his name, what else are you disrespecting? Sorry I don't follow this endless hyphenating idea. You are a person regardless of your name. Make it work for you.
2007-10-05 20:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep. Traditions die hard, sometimes.
My little granddaughter was given a middle name that is a family name, Palmer. I have been with her at a doctor's appointment, where the nurse called her into the office by first and middle name, no last name mentioned.
I told the nurse that Palmer is her middle name. Nurse was none too happy about having to change all her paper work, and refile her chart in a different bin.
Whatever way you choose to have your last name legally recognized is certainly up to you. But, be prepared for some people to be confused/angry about it.
2007-10-05 20:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think that is totally up to the 2 people getting married, & if the rest of the world don't like it then tough nuts. It is their last names it isn't like they are making everyone else have their last names.
It is also a way for a woman to keep some of her own identity after she gets married. And there is nothing wrong with still wanting to be known as a individual person, not just, oh your Mr. & Mrs Joe Doe but you are Mors. Jane herself-Doe (you know what I am getting at here I hope.)
2007-10-05 20:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The reason why is, they are used to families being male dominated, and therefore having the last name of the man be the primary last name of the couple, while leaving the wife's last name to just be her maiden name. I don't think it's wrong at all, and I think whatever they decide on to be their last name, should be just that.
2007-10-05 20:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like the idea of hyphenating OUR last names. Hopefully, he'll take my name and I'll take his. Our children can have both, because we'll have both. I'll try to lessen the shock of this request by reminding him that his name will still be the very last. If someone happens to call us by the very last name, I won't mind at all.
2007-10-05 20:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lovey 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's built into the religious practice in line with Christianity.
Jesus is the Bridegroom, the Church is the Bride...
AS such, the church takes upon it the name of Christ, and those who become converted become "Christians" and are willing to take upon them the name of Christ.
Hence, the bride takes upon her the name of the Bridegroom.
Christian tradition.
a great one, I think... it helps unite you as one ... which is the whole idea of marriage - becoming one - a beautiful concept.
2007-10-05 20:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not closed-minded to that. I don't think it's wrong. I think it's very common these days. My sister got married last year and she chose to keep her maiden name becasue her husband is asian and has a very obviously asian surname, and she thought it would look funny since she is white.
2007-10-05 20:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why are so many people closed-minded to...?
equally requested of YOU...
why are you SOOO against JUST taking your husbands last name? is it that bad of a name?
why can't families ALL have the same last name anymore???
2007-10-05 20:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Beats me. I caught allot of ignorant remarks because my first wife kept her maiden name. I guess there are still allot of small minded people around who feel the need to ridicule anything that is differant.
2007-10-05 20:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋