here's the deal. i didnt do a whole lot of stuff wrong in the marriage. i was married before and learned a lot. in my next marriage i was more giving, paid closer attention, gave my wife almost all my free time. thing is it wasn't good enough. she did all the crazy stuff. affair, abortion, grabbed me by the throat once when i refused to listen to her vulger abusive language and told her i won't talk to her until she calms down. now she's divorcing me and is madder than hell after she is the one who left! telling all kinds of lies, cutting my head off of family photos when i told her i won't put up with the lies and abuse and moved her things into the garage for her to pick up (i did this because she was coming in and taking things). now she hates my guts after all that she did! Can someone explain this to me?
2007-10-05 12:53:22 · 14 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know exactly what you mean.
When my mom divorced my dad, she started crazy stories and made it seem he was such a bad guy.
She even tried to get full custody.
I never really understood it myself, but with the divorce being so long ago, and my mom still having that deep hatred for my dad I think I have come to a pretty reasonable conclusion.
My mom is jealous.
My dad is now moving on with his life, and leaving her in his past.
Your wife, or ex-wife whatever you would refer to it as, is most likely realizing the mistakes she made.
So in order for her to look good she is making up stories to make you look like the cause of the divorce.
My hope is with you.
-alicia.
2007-10-05 13:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by alicia, please. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude... She is Mentally Ill.
Now, I need to say it... No matter how good of a guy you are there is ALWAYS fault on both sides...
But what she is doing is over the top and it is wrong.
You need to start keeping records of what she is doing and what she is saying...
Go to Best Buy and get a pocket voice recorder and a Phone Call Recording Attachment (One end plugs into your recorder the other end has a small suction cup on it that you stick to the back of your phone near the speaker)
You need to save each and every email that she sends to you.
You need to have witnesses when you actually have contact with her.
God I hope you two don't have kids... If you do she is going to mess them up and mess them up B A D.
Get a lawyer RIGHT NOW!!!
You may be the nicest person on earth but you need to start a good offence RIGHT NOW because if she is that unstable and that pissed off she is gonna be out for your blood...
She won't be happy until her lawyer castrates you and gives um' to her on a silver platter!!
PLEASE… PLEASE listen to me…
I know I’m just some chick on this forum but I have both experienced this type of insanity and seen the nicest people just get financially and emotionally raped by their x.
PLEASE start keeping track of EVERYTHING she does and every interaction you have with her or else she will be able to make up ALL SORTS of insane accusations… and she sounds crazy enough to be REALLY creative!
*HUG* Good luck man… Your gonna need it.
2007-10-05 13:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter. There's no use in blaming yourself for everything: there were two of you in the marriage and both of you had Some role to play in the divorce.
It no longer matters if she likes you, you're not married to her, (or won't be for long), if she wants to go off on a stress tip; dah well. Have fun.
Rebuild your own life and be grateful you won't have to deal with this garbage for much longer.
2007-10-05 13:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is such a pain in the butt to change your name and get everyone to refer to you as that new name. When you get married and change your name its a pain, then you have kids with that name, get divorced and then have change your name again. Even though you cannot stand your husband and divorce him, the name is still yours. You had it for years, people know you by it, the kids have the name. It is such a pain to change it legally and then have people call you by a different name. Can you imagine having to change your name?
2016-05-17 06:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's the type of person you never ever want to be with again! You know the type that wants to have everything and everyone they want without having to give up something. Let her hate you, as long as you know that you did the best job you could as her husband. If her lies causes you to lose friends etc...then they probably weren't really good friends anyway.
2007-10-05 13:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by *bAdHaBiT* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it personally....it sounds like she is mad at the world for some reason and you just happen to be the one that she takes it all out on. My ex was like that too! She was mad at me because I caught her cheating! You are trying to understand why women think the way they do...why don't you try something a little easier like maybe learning to speak greek! Best thing to do that I learned is just totally ignore her.
2007-10-05 13:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by tazdvl_31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's simple
you married a very unstable physco
you made a poor judgement call in marrying her
and the divorce is the correct remedy
who cares what she does
soon you will be rid of her
2007-10-05 13:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre ex sounds crazy you should be happy shes gone, sounds like shes doing you a favor, as for the abortion, (its her body she can do what she wants with it) or so i think. anyway i was gonna say its usually the mans fault but the way you explained it seems like your wife needs medical attention.
2007-10-05 13:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by ya girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The hate comes from disrespect. The disrespect comes from you not measuring up to the unrealistic image that she expected you to be. Therefore you are being punished.
2007-10-05 13:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she hated your guts all along! Seriously though, she clearly has anger issues... as well as other issues... and it probably has very little to do with you.
2007-10-05 13:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋