My husband has called the police on me 4 times in 10 months. Each time was for a ridiculous reason and the police were concerned for me. The last time he called, I told him to get out. He wants to get back at me for calling the police on him several years ago when he was violent and was sentenced to anger management because of the violence. Ever since then, he has been telling friends and family lies about me and that I am crazy. Everyone is wondering why he speaks so poorly of me. I am now just finding out about his active criticism behind my back. He has even told people he wants to have me committed or put in jail. I have done nothing wrong. My question is do you think I should leave or try and get him to a psychiatrist. He is also extremely argumentative and critical. We have been through group couples counseling. At the end of our time together all the couples and therapists were concerned for me because he always talked about himself and not our marriage. I am in therapy.
2007-10-05 12:42:05 · 11 answers · asked by belladonna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would leave him. http://www.domesticviolence.com
2007-10-05 12:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately for you, the bible says that the only cause to divorce your husband is because of adultery. Do you still love him? Someone has to be the hero in this relationship. I don't see him willingly going in to see a counselor, and if his only reason for calling the police on you, is to get even, I'm not sure that he has the intellectual capability to admit he's wrong or even acknowledge that he has a problem. No one can tell you, or should tell you whether to stay or leave...Only you can make that choice. I don't know what your beliefs are, but my strongest suggestion at this point is to tell you to pray.. It certainly couldn't hurt.
2007-10-05 12:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you already know the answer, you are just looking for someone to say it out loud. You have to know the way he treats you is a form of abuse. Noone who truly loves another - especially their spouse - gossips behind their back and calls the police to get revenge. Has he ever gotten out of high school? If the police were concerned for you, shouldnt that be a HUGE red flag for you? I would get out now, before anything gets worse for you. Violent husbands are nothing to waste time or your life on. You will never be able to get him the help you know he needs, he has to do that for himself. Right now, he views you as his enemy. What does your therapist say about this? I am concerned for you, if you have been shown concern by numerous outsiders, and fail to see any of it on your own. I would suggest another therapist, as well as a divorce attorney. You dont sound like you are happy, or hopeful things will get better. Why give it the chance to get worse? Please love yourself enough to get out now, and find a man who is worthy of you. There are good men out there, and you will find another (if you look). Others treat us badly, because we allow them to. Love yourself enough to put an end to his abuse. Dont allow anyone to treat you less than you would treat yourself. Good luck with this, I hope you find your way. Whichever road you choose will surely be difficult, but with the right support behind you, you can do it!
2007-10-05 13:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by My2Cents 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is something fundamentally wrong with your chronic cop caller hubby. If you have an interest in the marriage at all, get him into therapy and fast. However, he is calculating and vindictive. I say vindictive because he appears to take things very personally. He is mean spirited and boorish. Ask him ONE TIME if he is willing to try therapy. If he is not, leave. It would be counter productive for you to stay.
2007-10-05 12:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run, do no longer stroll, To the closest go out. Get a restraining order on you husband and consult from an lawyer a pair of divorce. do no longer wait. (do no longer enable him understand your doing this) you may discover out too late that he's putting the grounds for paying for you committed. stable success, TMD
2016-10-10 09:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to admit that he has a problem and has to want to get help. So you taking him to a psychiatrist may not work. Also, I think you should leave.
2007-10-05 12:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
and you are still with him why ?
because you LIKE the drama
otherwise when you saw you had a physcho for a hubby
you would have filed for divorce a long long long time ago
2007-10-05 13:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you should have left him years ago. He sounds cruel and abusive
2007-10-05 12:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think I would leave him.
2007-10-05 12:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everytime he calls one, take him in the bed room, i bet he wont call another one
2007-10-05 12:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋