Should I be a little worried about this guy?

Question

There's this guy at my job, we've been working together for a few weeks, and he's pretty friendly to everyone here, but he's a little more nicer to me.For instance, he's always asking me 'What am I doing for the weekend"? And he asked me on several occasions "What do I usually do when I leave work" or he'll ask me if I 'm going to see this movie" or if I had been such an such place to eat And on top of everytime he's in my office He shakes my chair, especially today..He shook it really hard this time and for a long time,then yesterday he walked by my office and I heard and him say"Oh you're so pretty" but I'm not really sure he was talking too..there was noone here except me..so I'm not really sure about this one...can someone tell me

Answer 1

He sounds a little creepy. Unless you have an interest in him, I'd keep my distance. I'd begin by asking him to stop shaking your chair. It's silly and I would imagine annoying. Also, if you don't say anything he may take your silence as encouragement. Try not to be left alone with him; if the comments persist, tell him kindly but firmly that they make you uncomfortable and ask him to stop.

Answer 2

So, here's the deal. I don't think you should be worried per se. But I do think he is raising some of his own RED FLAGS. By that I mean, he IS going out of his way to get your attention...regardless if you want it or not. If you find that it is making you feel uncomfortable for ANY reason, then this does constitute a form or harassment. I would say this...if he continues this course of behavior you need to send him an email (that way the communication is date stamped) stating that you have a problem with the way he is behaving. It is unprofessional and my personal life and business is just that...personal. If the problem persists, you need to tell your boss or human resources person about it. You need to document his behavior AND who if anyone (fellow employees) was present at the time (i.e. witness). I am not saying that he IS harassing you. That is purely subjective as to how you feel about it. But he does sound like he could be a problem especially if he can't pull it together and act professionally around you. Also, sometimes guys back off when they think you are involved with someone. So, if he asks you again what you are doing for the weekend, say that you and your boyfriend are going away for the weekend or something like that. He might take the hint. Might ...is a very big word.

Answer 3

Yes, he is interested in you and checking you out. His shaking the chair is his way of flirting. The questions, if answered correctly could lead to his asking you to meet him there.
If you are interested, I don't think your question would be here so I'm going to think you are not.
So as he is subtle in asking questions, you should be not so subtle in your response. "What are you doing this weekend?" Answer: "The usual. Can't really talk now. I need to get back to this project." Don't make eye contact, brush him off. When he shakes your chair, Do make eye contact and say firmly "Stop IT! I really don't like that."
Granted, you all won't be best buds, but...
Now if you have an office where you all are just fooling around all the time, it's a little different. Here you are laughing at someone else's joke, he says something and then you DO make eye contact, but the smile on your face leaves and your eyes just go dull. That'll work too.
Good luck with that.

Answer 4

There is a fine line between office conversation and flirtation. The "pretty" comment could have been one made while on the phone with someone else. (Cell ear piece.) Everything you've described is common office jabbing save the comment. The only way to tell is to wait. If you're married or coupled, mention this casually in his earshot. If you're interested, wait until you are certain the nature of his attentions. My boyfriend jokingly flirts with all the gals in his office and it's no big deal.

Answer 5

Well, he could just be an annoying co-worker that likes to bug people. If he is doing something that is making you feel uncomfortable, then TELL HIM! Your job is very important to you and you shouldn't feel scared and or intimidated by him or anyone. The best way to handle any situation at the work place is to "nip it in the bud", deal with it in the beginning. Try the nice approach, then if that doesn't work tell him to leave you the hell alone, and finally if that doesn't work tell someone of higher authority . Good Luck!

Answer 6

Extra relationships at the work place isn't good! But you can use your own judgment...... Everyone will be in your business and you get tired of seeing the person that you dating in the work place and then when there's problems in the relationship boy do it become hard to hide! Oppose to anything else I don't think it would be a good idea to even extend anything in reference to a relationship! Yeah I know that you didn't write that you were, but I am just far warning you before you even think about it! But then again you be your own critic and I'll mind my business..... Good Luck

Answer 7

Sounds like a freak to me. Be very careful because soon he will be following you home. Then the phone calls will start followed by freaky packages left at your front door. You get what im saying. Totally textbook unbalanced person. Talk to your boss or co workers and find out if they feel the same way. Good luck.

Answer 8

It's obvious this guy likes you and probably wants to go out. Now, YOU need to decide if you want his attention or not.
If you want his attention, then just let things continue they way they are going.
If you don't want his attention, then you need to tell him you don't appreciate the personal questions, the "you're so pretty" statements, or the chair shaking.
If he doesn't stop with the antics after you told him you're not interested, you need to put this guy in "check"!
Go to your manager/supervisor and let them know about the unwanted workplace situation.

Answer 9

I would first tell him to leave you alone if you truly are not interested. Never get involved with a co-worker, it doesn't work. But if he continues, go to human resources in reference to a harassment charge and make sure you get a copy of the report. It is the law to receive one from them.

Answer 10

Sounds like someone has a crush on you! It looks like he's trying to cover it up by finding out what interests you have, where you like to go, etc.

You said he only talks that way to you, right? I don't know if you should be worried unless something about his personality offsets you. But if your interested, get to know him, if not keep it professional.