I am in my 20's and married. I constantly fantasize while having sex with my husband that I am younger (like a teenager) and have been seduced by an older guy. It's kind of like a school girl / cheerleader fantasy that guys have, only in reverse. I have never heard of another woman with this fantasy and I feel like I must be crazy or something. I have not told my husband about this because I am afraid of what he'll think.
2007-10-05 12:18:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh and I want to add that no I was never molested as a child or anything like that.
2007-10-05 12:21:54 · update #1
This is a very common fantasy. Women are told all their lives that sex is bad and they should avoid it at all costs. Even when you grow up and know better, those voices still haunt you. One way around it is to give up control. Many women have fantasies of being seduced, dominated or even raped as ways of enjoying sex without being a bad girl by consenting to it. It's just a fantasy, so don't feel bad.
Your husband has fantasies too. As your marriage grows, try to open up a little and share them together. It will deepen your intimacy and it's so much more fulfilling to have someone to act out your fantasy with. Good luck.
2007-10-05 12:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same fantasy. I think it's more common than you may think. I've heard women say that they feel so overwhelmed with responsibilities and being the bread-winner and the mommy and boss, etc, that a fantasy about being young with an older man is a way to express how much we want to be taken care of and safe and feel innocent again.
2007-10-05 12:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bitsy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's "strange" but what isn't strange. It's your mind, you can think about whatever you want. I think about killing people all the time, and how I'd do it. Doesn't mean I'd ever actually harm anyone. If that's how you like the fantasize your sex, than more power to you.
2007-10-05 12:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Romocop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all fantasize> some won't admit it >If that's what it takes to float your boat have fun>But there should be more of a Passion in your marriage>???This is your Fan== so best keep it to yourself since your comunication with your H is missing some>
2007-10-05 12:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It's okay. We all fantasize. You don't need to tell your husband because it is you fantasy.
2007-10-05 12:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fantasies are quite normal. Your fear of telling your life partner might prove troublesome. Make sure he knows he's the only one for you & explore all that life has to offer the two of you. If you're sure he would be threatened by it, keep it to yourself & re-evaluate what you really want.
2007-10-05 12:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by YIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your husband comes home from work, surprise him by wearing a cheerleader or school girl costume.
2007-10-05 12:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is alright to fantasize- just don't make it real- your husband should understand, I think we all fantasize, even him.
2007-10-05 12:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit weird, but I have heard much stranger. Everyone has their fantasies.
2007-10-05 12:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by hurricane197 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um... i actually have the same sick fantasy - i make my man grow a beard so he looks older lol
2007-10-05 12:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋