Needing Some lovin!! Can U Help!!?

Question

My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. For the last year sex is almost noexistant. I've tried on a few occaions to get him in the mood but he is just never interested. I know that he is stressed out with work and school but he used to be so into me that he couldn't keep his hands off me. I don't think he is cheating on me and I haven't gained weight, so can anyoneone tell me what his problem may be?

And also how could I get him in the mood without him knowing what I'm trying to do? How could I get him to start making the moves on me? I really need to get some!!!!

Oh yeah, I also don't want any BS answers like maybe your ugly blah blah blah. I want real genuine answers that will really help me out.

Answer 1

The problem might actually lie in his biology. The first 2 years of a relationship are called the infatuation stage. This is because your body is being flooded with chemicals that make you have this incredibly high sex drive among other things.

After this 2 year period, your body goes back to "normal". Maybe your fiance's "normal" is a low sex drive. This is very common among men. We just don't hear about it often. Of course, the stress can play a major role also.

My first tip is to become an expert in your lover's arousal. What is it that turns him on? You need to find out what it is and do those things. Second, honor his sexual preconditions. What I mean by that is, if he likes sex in the morning, do it then. If he likes to be clean, take a shower first, etc... Low desire people usually have a lot of preconditions.

Remember, communicating with him is the key. If he is open to going to the doctor, it would be a good idea. You want to rule out any illness that could be causing this change in behavior.

Answer 2

One thing you can try is making him libido-boosting food. Chocolate is well-known for it, but so are bananas and several others (google it). Lingerie might help (obviously sexual or kind of 'oh, is this sexy?' kind of lingerie). Really, in the end, you'll probably end up talking about it. Having gone through similar problems, the only way to get through it is to let him know how you're feeling, and try to find out why he's acting this way. You have to choose your timing carefully... sex is touchy for men. You could even try going to a sex counselor for it. It's possible he just didn't know that you're feeling so troubled over it, and needs to remember to pay attention.

Other suggestions... talk to him about new positions, new things you want to try. Try being the initiator for a while, until he gets back into it. This is all very tricky, and it'll take time and effort. Good luck, though!

Answer 3

it sounds like some one has lost interest, i was married for 23 yrs we had sex all the time, a man should not lose interest in only 3yrs to the point you have to get him in the mood, and maybe you are ugly blah blah blah, just kidding

Answer 4

Tell your fiance, "I met this good looking sexy guy and he wants to have sex with me. I told him that I would love to but I don't want to cheat so I need your permission. So, please, may I have sex with him sometime this week?" That will trigger your his subconscious and he will have sex with you.

Then occasionally you can be out a bit longer than normal and whatever you say, your fiance will wonder what you have been up to and have sex with you. The reason that works is explained in the studies by biologists Robin Baker and others.

Answer 5

stress is bad, First just tell him you Love him. second go get a couples massage it will relax him. Second update is clothes. Third take him on a date unplanned on a weeked. Fourth, go home first and run him a bath. maybe you two need to find a churh that you both can go to might sond wierd but religon might clear his head and he will open up to you. also send him flowers at work. just slam him with all of your love and Heart. peace out W. <*{{{{><