Your husband is making his friendship with this couple more important to him than you are. The wedge is already there, and they are hammering it in deeper with every backstabbing comment, and with every effort they make to exclude you.
The foundation of your marriage has a fatal flaw in it, and you guys need to fix it before it's too late. Get some marriage counseling, and if I were you, I'd make sure the counselor was a man. Your husband needs to be told some things, and he is going to hear it best if it is coming from another man. I'm not a counselor, but I'd be willing to bet that your husband will have to choose between his friends and you. It's important for you to realize that if it comes down to that --- its not your fault. No man who is a good husband allows his wife to be put in the crappy situation that your husband has put you in.
As a side note --- your husbands friends sure are some low quality people, and he should stop seeing them on that merit alone.
2007-10-05 12:32:09
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answered by mt75689 7
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It sounds as if your husband and you need to go see a marriage counseler. The two of you are having a problem where you and he are not seeing eye to eye on a small issue. I had a very good friend before I met my wife. The friend is a woman, and there was some resentment on both sides--How can I be such good friends with her--How come she was "The One" instead of me. As I write this, I'm still friends w/ Stacey, but my wife is #1 forever and always... Her opinion and feelings meant so much more....
2007-10-05 12:21:40
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answered by Phillyfan 3
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I think you could start by having him read this post. At the very least read it to him. It states succinctly and clearly your issues. They are reasonable and non-contentious.
If he still wants to continue the status quo, you should suggest couples counseling. If he still is resistant than you may have to consider Divorce.
He married you, that implies that he want to be with you, if this is not the case, than you should both admit a mistake was made and move on.
Hopefully it won't come to this. If he a reasonable person he will understand your feelings and you may be able to work out a compromise.
Good Luck, and God Bless.
2007-10-05 12:23:00
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answered by QBeing 5
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All I can say is refer to your marriage vows. What about forsaking all others that try to come between you? He should love and respect you enough as his wife to stick up for you!!! The problem is that he is weak and has no backbone and wants to avoid confrentation. Your husband needs to take a stand or he will always fall.
2007-10-05 12:22:49
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answered by jack_black_91 6
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i think of it is going returned to that "i did not have intercourse with that female" mentality. i grew to become into offered up a Catholic and that i'm sorry yet I even have intense morals. i could never evaluate that as an decision. i could additionally ask for a blood attempt to make valuable that they have got not got any STD's. till now intercourse grew to become into even seen. Who comprehend the place or with who the different man or woman has been. Too many adolescents at the instant do not evaluate this a topic and subsequently our society is so screwed up. i could desire to have communique and know-how and a minimum of a few mutual thoughts for a man or woman and a few sort of courting with yet another guy or woman, till now i could evaluate having intercourse with them i could desire to never play the acquaintances with advantages interest. extra capability to you. i'm valuable that there are a number of adult males available that experience the comparable way which you do and in the event that they don't, pass them up and flow on. they don't look to be worth it. Are women that desperate for a guy that they are going to decrease themselves to a hunk of meat?
2016-11-07 09:13:19
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answered by ? 4
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it is all ready ruining your marriage
you married the wrong guy
period
when you marry you get everyone
family and friends
and if things are that bad
then you made a bad judgment call in marrying your husband
divorce and move on
and next time examine him and those around him before marrying
2007-10-05 13:22:02
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answered by Anonymous
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Seems your h has more intrest in his friends than you>Your on a 3 to1 conflict>Not good odds>Your call except it>defend yourself> Or ====Good luck>
2007-10-05 12:20:25
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answered by 45 auto 7
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Your husband shouldn't be trying to force you to be friends with the couple. If you aren't welcome at their house , they shouldn't be welcome at yours.
Unfortunately the resolution in this instance would require a certain amount of maturity on your husband's part. He probably isn't too motivated to make change as he is currently having his cake and eating it too.
2007-10-05 12:21:02
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answered by Anonymous
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