Mt best friend slept with my brother then lied about it. I feel so hurt about this. I only recently found out. I don't know what to do. The pain is almost unbearable. Any advice would ve greatly appreciated.
2007-10-05 11:15:59 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well he was just so cute! im sorry em! Do you still love me?
2007-10-05 13:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Blair W ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you so upset? It has absolutely nothing to do with you. Perhaps your friend lied to you because she knew exactly what your reaction would be.
It's time you realised that you don't own your brother or your best friend. If, for some reason, you find their liaison distasteful, there is nothing stopping you from saying so out loud. That at least would be honest and stimulate a debate.
I think you feel pain because they didn't ask your permission. For that kind of pain take an aspirin and a good look in a mirror.
2007-10-05 11:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by doshiealan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she did such thing to hurt you then you are sure to know she was not a true friend or even close to being your best friend. Sometimes temptation goes further than common sense. She made a mistake but it's up to you to forgive her. You can forgive her but that doesnt mean that she HAS to be your friend. Keep some distance from her if that's what you need. That's up to them you dont need to get involved that will make the pain even more unbearable. Dont get mad at your brother that wont help. Although he had some fault he is your part of your family you can't cut him out of your life but you can cut off your "best friend"...............
I agree that must hurt.........you can cope with it ;)
2007-10-05 11:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by ღimd14uღ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is your brother? Also, she probably thought at the time that you wouldn't want to be your friend anymore if she told you that she slept with your brother...
My friend - Alexis - was actually in the same situation; one of our friends called Whitney slept with Alexis' brother and Whitney denied that she did. Later on Alexis found out that Whitney slept with her brother.
Whitney told us the reason why she didn't confess straight up was because she didn't want to ruin the great friendship they had... Alexis forgave Whitney and they couldn't be better friends.
If that is what happened with you - try asking your friend why she lied about it......
uh, hope this helped
2007-10-05 11:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she lied to save you being upset.
Is it such a bad thing for your best friend to get on with your brother?
Unless there is any special reason why they should not get together, i.e. age, other relationships etc.?
If she is your friend, then you will know if she would be loyal to your brother, should he wish to continue to see her.
I think no harm is done,so long as you can all remain good friends. She could end up being your sister-in-law one day!
2007-10-05 11:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by heeeelp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not as biggest deal as you would like to believe. I understand you are hurt because he is your brother and she is supposed to be your best friend. However, you can't control who your brother likes and does not like. To tell her that she can't be with him if she feels for him and he feels for her is a bit immature. The world doesn't work that way. Because she didn't tell you, chances are she was trying to find out her own way to do so without hurting you. After all, a real best friend wouldn't want to hurt their bff. I'm sure she didn't mean for it to happen or for it to be done out of spite. I think its time to forgive and forget, and move on.
2007-10-05 11:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by vamp_shana 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your best friend and your brother slept together because that was their decision to make.They are old enough to know what they are doing. Your friend should not have lied to you about it. Your friend should not have told you anything and kept it to herself.
2007-10-05 11:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y should u upset like this? they deserver to do something in private so they maynot want anyone to know about it or they just want to keep it as secret for alittle while to get the right place and the right time to tell u. noone want anyone to know oneself's secret. to me i think that she is ur bestfriend if she not think u are a good friend she ll not love ur brother.
So you shoudl come to her to show her how u really feel when a good friend turn to be a liar.
2007-10-05 16:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by khateya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad because your brother got some? That's just weird. I don't really understand why you friend felt she had to lie about it. I mean it isn't like it's any of your business.
2007-10-05 11:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bff didn't sleep with your boyfriend, she slept with your brother. Although you have the right to feel angry about that the fact that she lied, I really don't know why you are so upset. After all, your brother probably hasn't taken a vow of celibacy and you probably never asked your bff not to ever have sex with one of your relatives.
My advice. Put it behind you. They didn't do it to hurt you. And make her swear to never share details about what transpired between your brother and she.
2007-10-05 11:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Have you talked to your friend about this you need to be open with her and let her know how this has upset you and make things right or it will end up in hate and if shes a true Friend she will explain herself and apologies to you and then its up to you if you need this Friend in your life
2007-10-05 11:48:23 · answer #11 · answered by CRUZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋