me and my boyfriend just found out i am 3 weeks pregnant but we're young and we want to finish school. we want somebody to take care of our baby till we graduate and have good paying jobs but we still want to see our baby and help out as much as we can. we want to try to be as responsible as we can now being that we already messed up not using bc methods and all. and please dont tell us abortion because we will not even consider that
2007-10-05 10:49:20 · 13 answers · asked by sweet16babigurl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It isn't fair to let someone else raise it until you want to, as bonds will already be made. I would talk to family members to see if anyone, like your parents, will help.
2007-10-05 10:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sugarcookie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not really. Your best bet is if you have a family member willing to do free child care for you while you are at school/work. If not you may be able to get help through the government to pay for child care while you are at work but that's it. You can go to school and have a baby. It's not fun but it does work. Both my parents graduated from college while taking care of me(my dad graduated when I was 12) and my DH is still in college (late start). It works out in the end. If you want to keep your baby make a full commitment now and do what you have to in order to make it work.
2007-10-05 11:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put the baby up for adoption. You can do an open adoption so you can get pictures and updates. Also open adoption is helpful in case of certain medical emergencies. It is easier to find the birth parents. Also, have you talked to your parents about maybe helping with childcare? Lots of couples work and go to school and raise their children too. It's hard work, but if you really don't want to give your baby up for adoption it is about the only choice you have.
2007-10-05 10:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no program that will allow you to let someone else raise it then get it back. I would ask family members if they may want to help out. If you can't find family help then just do the best that you can. You can take turns finishing school. You can go on line as much as possible, it can be done, it will just be harder, but not impossible.
2007-10-05 11:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you find a relative that you can live with while you go to school, you and your child will not be bonded. Its selfish of you to want to place your child somewhere until you're ready to parent it. Picture living with a loving family member until suddenly "mom" sweeps in and tears you away... pretty traumatic. If you can't live with a parent/grandparent/aunt that can help you to raise the child, then I would recommend you look for permanent placement for your child or consider open adoption.
2007-10-05 10:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jacky S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't work like that
it is a child, you created it, it is your responsibility all of your life
you cant just hand it off to someone till you are ready,parenting is a 24/7 job
you should not of been sexually active because yes you are too young.
give the child up for adoption and then you can meet the baby when he/she is 18 if he/she wants to meet you
that's the only thing you can do
but if you love your child you would grow up and take care of him/her
there are teen mothers out there who raise a child and go to school
2007-10-05 10:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2408 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can always give it up for adoption but make it an open adoption which means you get to be involved in the child's life. My friend did that and she gets pics of her little girl and talks to her and goes to visit her. That way you get to see your child but she's being raised by people that are ready and able to take care of her and provide for her. Good luck to you.
2007-10-05 10:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by MARCI P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could try open adoption but remember they DO NOT have to let you see your child. if at any time they decide they don't want you to see him or her anymore then poof you are out of the picture. i would suggest raising it yourselves. sorry but that is the only way you are guaranteed to be in it's life. like you said you are young. you are capible of raising a baby and going to school and following your dreams. having a baby is not a dream buster.
2007-10-05 10:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
of course there is. its called open adoption. although i dont know that you can just get your child back when you think you can take care of it...i do know that you still get to be a part of the childs life....i dont know if the children are taught to call adoptive parents mom and dad or the 2 that put them up for adoption. just talk to someone about it. i know its called open adoption.
2007-10-05 12:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Teri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either you are a committed parent or you're not!! You can't parent from the sidelines, it requires your full attention, all your time, patience and everyresource you can possibly come up with!! It's not easy, in fact it's the toughest job in the world, but the most rewarding. Most of the time it requires all sacrifice with what seems little benefits, but I wouldn't trade it for anything!!!!!!
2007-10-05 11:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by manthamom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋