I apologise to those who answered my half a question!! dont know what happened there!! To cut a long story short... I took my child to school a few minutes late, looking for a missing jumper....the jumper had been left at school. I was looking for the jumper and was approached by a woman I had never met before. This woman told me not to enter the class with my child (who is 5 years old) but to go to her office instead. I told her I needed to ask the form teacher a question, and she stated in an aggressive manner "do you know who I am? I am the head teacher". Because of her attitude I decided to ignore her and go with my little girl into the classroom to ask the teacher about the jumper. On leaving the class I was grabbed by the arm ) and told to go to her office. I did not have time to go to her office as I was on my way to work....so she shouted to me that she would exclude my child from the school!! I was then sent a letter the next day warning me about MY aggressive behaviour!
2007-10-05 10:38:16 · 17 answers · asked by Lucky 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
That sounds like a disturbing encounter but schools are a little over sensitive about adults in school. Why not ring and ask to speak to the head and talk calmly about the problem? I am a teacher and know that instant decisions I can make can sometimes have huge effects that I never thought about - everything is so time pressured. Talk it through for your peace of mind and you are likely to see a different side to the head.
2007-10-05 10:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As you didn't know who the head teacher was nor did she know who you were she was protecting the rest of the children and staff in her care. She asked you not to go to the child's class, you chose to ignore her request. You chose not to tell her why you wished to speak with your child's class teacher. You chose to ignore the person who is responsible for all the children in her care. How was she to know that you weren't going to the child's class to either attack the teacher because she had done something you weren't happy about, or to attack a child who you felt had done an injustice to your child. Going to work was more important than resolving an issue involving your child. You may have felt that the head overreacted but you DO NOT know what else happens in the school. Another day your question might be "why did head teacher not stop Mr x entering my child's class and scaring her?" Do you remember the tragedy of Dunblane 1996 when a man entered the school and shot dead 16 five year old children and their teacher? The Head teacher was doing her job, you sound like you have broken all safety and security requests which are probably detailed in the school handbook.
2007-10-06 07:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compain to the School Governors, they will investiagte what happened, and if the 'head' has acted over aggressively then they will take appropriate action.
Think for a moment, you did not know her, she did not know you, so you are a strange adult in a school with a child, if you had been a teacher in that position would you have challenged the adult?
Schools are now very sensitive about security, you were hurrying, the 'head' was busy. Did you both overreact a little.
Maybe you could phone the school, and meet with the head, an explanation may help on both sides.
2007-10-06 07:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mike B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simple really, Write all this down, type it up and then find out the address of the Local Education Authority ( LEA) of the school involved. Usually county hall or some council offices.
Send all the details to:
THE LEA INSPECTOR WITH OVERSIGHT OF XX SCHOOL IN XXX
When this has definitely arrived i.e. about two weeks later ( things turn slowly in education ) send a copy of the same letter to the The Chair of Govenors (COG) of the school involved. Do not phone, it MUST be in writing.
Believe me sparks will fly! This Head seems so difficult that she is almost certainly known to the LEA. If on the other hand the facts are not as you describe them, you will drop yourself into a load of hassle. Why not see the citizens advice bureau for advice. Then again, if you are sure of the facts, go ahead with my suggestion above.
2007-10-05 18:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by John S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in todays society schools have had to become very careful about who is in their buildings. Many schools will not even allow parents into the building without an appointment.
As a teacher I have been interrupted many times by parents. We are trying to develop young independent minds and have a lot of learning etc to get through in a day and disruptions are annoying. If you have a school link book messages should be put in it.
I do however agree that the headteacher should of introduced herself straight away. Some HTs do have huge egos. There is no excuse for pulling your arm.
2007-10-07 13:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Angela W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you not know that is the head teacher of your childs school?
Most schools require late children to go to the office to be registered, and will then be taken to the classroom by a member of staff.
If you were late, by then speaking to the class teacher you were disrupting her classroom and she probably would have had to settle all the children again.
Make an appointment to see the head and try to resolve this issue.
2007-10-06 11:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did over react a bit but schools nowadays have to be careful who is on the premises. You were in the wrong by ignoring her. You should have gone to her office and explained. She had every right to call the police and have you removed by them.
I think that you both owe each other an apology and you need to ring the school and ask for an appointment to discuss the situation. You were in a hurry and anxious and she was worried about a stranger wandering her corridors.
2007-10-06 04:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jean O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would report the teacher 2 the local education board phone local council n get put through 2 children and education services n tell her exactly what happened n "Her aggressive behaviour" n tell them u want 2 make a official complaint n not happy about her behaviour n not acceptable
GOOD LUCK DONT STAND 4 her behaviour shes obviously on a power trip
2007-10-06 16:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by spinklet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think they have all the power! I would 'wait for her after school' and when she's out of sight of people and cameras of course, and threaten her! Tell her not to **** with you and if she even dares grab your arm again there will be trouble! And walk away! If she grabbed you hard enough and left a mark I hope you took pics of it! Good luck with this b***h! Nasty people like that should not be working with kids!
2007-10-07 09:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by clairew1207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez, i think you should take your daughter out of that school, or at least explain to the "head teacher" why you were there and that you didn't understand why you couldn't just walk in because you have a child there and it's not like you're a terrorist.
i feel sorry for your daughter having to put up with teachers like that everyday!
2007-10-05 17:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by dcarcia@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋