Why do people laugh at older people with a slight stutter?

Question

I'm 52 and people of all ages still laugh at me. I know every tell tale sign of expressions of people. It no longer bothers me but everywhere i go i see the expression on their face like their looking for a fast escape or a turn and snicker. I no longer ask women out anymore because of this, but i'd like your opinions on this. Would it really bother any of you seniors if i were to walk up to you to talk? My friends joke about this but that's different.

Thanks for all your honest answers and if your all up for adoption i need more family members.

Answer 1

I am really sorry to hear that people are being so insensitive to you. I know that a lot of people try to help by trying to finish your sentences, but that is a big no-no. This sounds like it is a big insecurity in your life, in that you do not want to ask other people out. Please try to deal with this, It could be an anxiety thing or shyness. I know I have no right, as I have not walked in your shoes. But I don't want you just to give up It does not seem right that your own friends joke about it, but if you accept that OK. I would not be bothered if you were to come up and talk to me. I would try to make you feel comfortable and listen. I am a good listener. We are all here on earth with a little quirk and that just makes us who we are. Best of luck to you. Please join us here in Seniors and we will not even notice even if you stutter while typing. Just say what you have to say.Everyone here is welcome as long as they are not a Troll, rude, crude or downright nasty.

Answer 2

Why dont you try some therapy? You could still work on this probably. I used to stutter off and on, it was a psychological thing with me of course, stuttered around my mother - buts thats another story.

I have several friends who stutter, but they dont stutter when they talk to me very much, sometimes not at all. I feel very good about this because it means they are picking up some kind of vibe from me and arent at all nervous with me.

The more someone reacts the worse it can get. Sometimes if they are having a bad time around other people I just gently suggest an alternate word that doesnt have a hard consonant in it. It works pretty well for the most part.

People can be amazingly ignorant and insensitve. I cant abide cruelty to others. Just remember its their problem, not yours. However do ask your doctor about speech therapy, its never too late for old dogs to learn new tricks. :-)

Answer 3

Our best friend in elementary and high school stuttered and I know she had a terrible time with it. I didn`t know quite what the teacher should do when it was her turn to read. We would have sat there forever but it was really an ordeal for her. Her face would turn all red and the more nervous she got the worse her stutter was...She did later have speech therapy and is a successful Dr. now. Nobody is perfect and u sound like a really nice guy. Don`t give up on asking people out.

Answer 4

No I wouldnt laugh.My father stuttered all his life and he was a wonderful person .Highly intelligent ,However he didnt like to answer the phone and he and mom would decide what they wanted to eat then Mom would always order because he hated to stutter.People laughed and it made Dad furious! Here he was a smart man,a pilot. Funny alot of people who laughed at him were not very bright either .I certainly wouldnt let it keep me from enjoying my life or finding someone special. My parents met on a blind date.My Dad asked my Mom if the matchmaking freind had warned her that he stuttered and Mom said no she didnt care.She was looking for someone with a good heart and they were married almost 40 years. Its minor.One more thing realize it may be that people are thrown by it. What with comedians doing there skits sometimes it takes a moment to discern if the person is a true stutterer or if its someone trying to imitate them for a joke.Its very sad but I had a very good freind who sounded alot like porky pig.I hate that cartoon! People need to be more patient and listen.Im not a senior but I know that there are seniors like her that consider it minor.whats important is that you are kind and invite a lady for coffee .Show a woman that your a gentleman and you appreciate them and they will dig you.hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

I don't think I've ever heard anyone laugh with a stutter, at old people or young.
I'm just kidding, I'm 55 and my best friend stutters. He is a charter boat captain and can put you on the big fish. Stuttering is more cute than offensive. Like being left handed, or red headed, it makes you unique!

Answer 6

There are a lot of ignorant people in this world & shame on them for laughing at you. I went to high school with a guy & when he talked to me, he'd stutter, especially when he tryed to speak fast. I'd just smile at him & gave him a look, as if to say, "take your time." We all have imperfections & no one has the right to make fun of others. Please don't let your stuttering keep you from dating. You only live once. If you walked up to me right now to chat, I would have no problems, whatsoever. :)

Answer 7

I think insecure people laugh at others. I'm sorry people treat you this way. It wouldn't bother me for you to talk to me. My 1st cousin stutters also, sometimes it's very hard for her to finish what she is saying, but she doesn't let it bother her. She's a mom and grandma and a very friendly and outgoing person. When you find the right woman for you, it won't make a difference to her that you stutter. Those thoughtless people aren't important, don't let how they act affect who you are.

Answer 8

Personally, I think that those who laugh are just plain rude. They seem to forget that they have their own problems that need working on.

Have you ever heard of a singer named Mel Tillis? He has a severe stuttering problem. I read an interview that he gave several years ago regarding his problem. He could never figure it out, but he does not stutter when he sings. Amazing isn't it?

Answer 9

Umm? Actually I never met to many people who stutter.

But I certainly would not laugh at them. I'd probably help them get the words out, which I heard was a no no. But I f you came up to talk to me, I'd notice your stutter, but hope that I would have patience enough to wait for you to get it out what you want to say.

Answer 10

My ex husband stuttered. We divorced in 1966 but that had nothing to do with it. He was going out with his childhood sweetheart while we were married.. OK his stuttering was bad. Everybody that knew him just waited for his word to come out. He would put one finger aside his nose so his hand would secretly cover his mouth. After we split, he married her and went to speech therapy. Now he talks as normal as anyone. SO, it can be done at any age. He's so happy now and doesn't even put his hand up anymore. We're still friends and he tells me he still remembers the feeling of trying to get the words out but he's definitely in control of it. Good luck with it tho.