Me and my cousin have always been like best friends.We are the same age. I moved over the summer so now i go to his school. When i got to his middle school when school began i became very popular.He's kinda unpopular and he only has maybe 10 friends.None of his friends are girls. He's really mean to a lot of people. I think he is jealous cause i made the basketball team and he didn't also.Also i am 6'1" and i'm only 13.He hardly ever talks to me and when he does he is mean and tries to put me down. He has very low confiedence.I have VERY high confiedence. I am writing a book and make A's and B's.I participate in play's while he cuts his bed into pieces.
tell me what is wrong!!!!!
what has happened to my best friend!
PS: he deleted me from his myspace friend list and keeps denying my requests????
thanks :-)
2007-10-05 09:52:14 · 14 answers · asked by Sasquatch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your cousin is could be depressed and need counseling. Talk to your parents about this, if his mental health is not nurtured now he could be headed for a world of trouble.
That said I do detect a note of an inferiority/superiority complex in your question.
Boys your age are always jockeying for social status and pointing out how great you are and using your cousin's failures to drive the point home is not necessarily a sign of "high self-confidence". It is great you have a full and enjoyable life, but your life is not his.
Maybe he is finding other interests than yours and your one-upmanship is off-puting to him. If he has 10 friends, good friends, he is not "unpopular", except maybe with the "A" jock crowd or whomever rules the roost at this school. I do not mean you any ill will by saying this, I only mean to point out a view of this situation you have not considered. Best of luck.
2007-10-05 10:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Acte Ahena Goelengal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, he's jealous.
Everything was OK between the two of you when you weren't in his territory. Now you are. And he's going to blame you for all his shortcomings rather than be happy for your successes.
Pretty common behavior for someone with low self esteem, I'm sad to say. All I can say is I hope he outgrows it. He might.
In the meantime, don't let family pressure you to be together - it will just make things worse. Family might not understand, but if you maybe explain it to your mom or dad, they will help you keep from being put in a situation family wise that will make his anger greater.
Best of luck darling - I've lost friends similarly before, through their jealousy. I know it hurts - must hurt worse being family and all.
2007-10-05 09:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, remove the fact from your mind that he is related to you and then realise he is just another person you may encounter some time in the future.
The world is full of the Good, the Bad and the Ugly that is probably why someone once said : you can choose your friends your relations are forced upon you.
Just enjoy your life and don't worry about him.
2007-10-05 10:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Equaliser. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's jealous, and obviously not very popular, and he's acting immature. These types of people tend to be mean towards other people because they think it would pull someone towards them and they think it's funny. Well, it's not it's disgustingly rude.
He needs to get over it. He is acting selfish, especially since you want to stay friends, and trying to fix the demeaning situation.
I'm not sure about the cutting beds part, and you might want to ask the family, but I hope this helps!!!
2007-10-05 09:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by ATO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah properly, boys will be boys.. i understand how uncomfotable this may were. He hadn't seen you in years and probable saved the entire "being cousins" element on the decrease back of his ideas. attempt no longer to imagine about it x
2016-10-20 05:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels that you are flaunting and he feels even smaller now. Humble yourself and think of as many positive things about him as you can, and then tell him. Make his self confidence soar, but be truthful.
2007-10-05 09:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it already... He is jealous, try bringing him into the popular crowd, letting him hang out with you and your friends
2007-10-05 09:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my duaghter has the same problem. she is ranked 3rd in the state for pistol shooting and has heaps of boys that are friends. a lot of the girls are jealous of her.
talk to your cousin and ask why hes doing it. you may have to tell your aunty and uncle your scared for him
2007-10-05 09:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by ROB W 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
he is an insecure jerk, even if he is family.Try ignoring him and see if he comes around
2007-10-05 09:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being good at everything
2007-10-05 09:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋