Girls, why is it that 'age' is such a big deal with women?

Question

I don't mind being ask later or not at all, but just when the conversation starts to go smooth, the next thing you know is you're being ask of your age! I mean it's very routine and sounds like an interrogation already! I just get to feel like i'm getting labeled or something! Is it a preference kind of thing!
I know for a fact that women take things more literally than men do, but this thing about age is spoiling the mystery and excitement!

Answer 1

I think that women are trying not to date anyone who is younger then them, because of the "Mommy" fear and also women tend to want a more mature man around them. This may single some men out if they don't seem to act a certain way. This is only my opinion, but I this is how my friends and I feel. I hope this helps!

Answer 2

Well when you're meeting someone sometimes age helps in what topics to discuss. Gender is very obvious (I'd hope), but age is at times difficult to determine.
I spent several days in the hospital with a very ill friend and the transporter was talking about television shows. I have seen the reruns of some of them or watched a few DVDs and could hold an okay conversation about them (not that I really wanted to talk). However, while waiting on the elevator he asked me how old I was and then said, "I mean I'd guess you were 31." I think he was trying to make me feel good and he felt bad when I told him "Um, I'm only 25 but its been a long week.".
Now if you're asking why a woman is asking you you're age it means she either thinks you're acting immature or wants to know if you're smart for your age or just acting like it.

Age also indicates if you should be in high school, college, and if you're established or settled in your career or facing changes and choices. Perhaps also if you most likely already have children or not. Dating is difficult and age doesn't really matter but it can provide a clue as to what to expect.

Answer 3

Age has nothing to do with how long you have been alive, its about your attitude your enthusiasm your lust for life.

Incidentally if you look at the online dating sites the majority of women are seeking a man the same age or up to ten years younger!

Myself I canot understand this preoccupation with age. My son's girlfriend whois 20 was watching a TV chat show where a 33 YO man had married an 18 year old. She was going on that that age gap was sick, perverted etc etc.

She at least had the decency to blush when I pointed out that that was the exact age gap between myself and her soon to be mother in law!

Answer 4

Not being one myself, I can't really speak for the girls, but I think the following is a good way to deal with the situation:

Before I met my wife, I would answer the question of my age with my actual age, up front, no lies or deception at all, but because I didn't really think my age was relevant to the conversation most of the time, my answer would not be in years, but in days. Most often they'd laugh, tell my I had too much time on my hands if I knew that and we'd move on to other topics.. I had a few that asked me why I was being such a jerk and to just answer the question. A few came back with the correct number of years, and a few just stopped talking to me. the ones that had a problem with it probably weren't worth talking to anyway. My wife thought it was kinda dorky but she married me anyway :)

Answer 5

I admit I don't understand it. I think it's because many people have this idea that when a woman gets older and is no longer able to have children, then she becomes essentially worthless as a human being. It really bugs me. Women are worth more than a simple biological function. I'm now at an age where I can't have children but it doesn't bother me and I am not envious of younger women who can have them. I had my time and it's over now just like theirs will be one day.

Answer 6

I'm 49 and it doesn't embarrass me to admit it. The only reason I would be concerned about a guys age would be so I could assess whether a relationship is appropriate. I like guys a little younger but a lot younger might be inappropriate. Also you can 'guesstimate' his emotional experience by whether he's old enough to have been married, had kids (and their age/s) and how he's coped with the end of previous relationships.

Answer 7

No - Age is important to know because men can look younger (or older) then they actually are. I am 25 but look like an 18 year old so if some guy comes hitting on me, of course I want to know his age because it could be some high school kid or something.

Answer 8

It is a bit odd. I've never placed much importance on age. As long as they are obviously over 18, look good, and have a great personality. Who cares?

One thing I have noticed, though. Women have this notion that age has much more than squat to do with maturity.

Personally, I prefer to judge for myself how mature someone is. Not just hear a number and believe that more than my own eyes and ears.

Answer 9

Because a relationship with someone who is far beyond an age she is in is demented!
It's gross seeing women marrying men who are old enough to be their uncles, or fathers.
Same thing for men marrying women who are old enough to be their aunts, or mothers.
Even more gross?
People marrying people who are old enough to be their grandparents.
No, age isn't just a number!
Yes, age is a big deal!
Be civilized!

Answer 10

I don't see why a girl asking you your age is any different than asking what you do for a living or where you live, etc. Its just something about yourself they want to know.

I don't think its a big deal to the girl, but maybe you're self concious about it?