i love my b.f more than words can describe. He loves me more than anything else in this world too, but lately we've ben arguing so much with have so many issues and problems which is making me feel so depressed and suicidal because he says i havent proven to him how much i say i love him. Thing is he doesn't understand just as much i do love him i'v just got a problem with showing my feelings because i'm always down all the time. If i break up with him i would regret it for the rest of my life and feel like dying every second and minute and if i stay i'll still feel depressed because i seem to not be proving to him that i'm being 'real' is there a way around this please i'll really like to work our relationship out before it's too late.
2007-10-05 09:34:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds more like drama than love. People who love each other get along and are compatible. With the little you describe, it sounds more like one or both of you is obsessed with the other to the point that your ability to reason has been "swept away." Not being able to get someone off your mind is obsession, which is common in early stages of a relationship and frequently is incorrectly referred to as love. But, real love is the care of one to their greatest happiness. It definitely doesn't sound like this exists for you since both of you are causing havoc for each other, not care and happiness. Is he for you and your future? It sounds like he's not. Sooner or later, once obsession goes away and reason comes back, you'll recognize the need to walk away and will do so. But, rather than waiting on that and causing drama and harm for you now, force that reason back. Break up (and don't do it just to make up; move on to better things and always place yourself first)!
2007-10-05 09:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by zgm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to think about is ,has he got a problem in the security dept.? He seems to need so much reassurance.
If you are completely sure the problem lies with you and not him, book an appointment with your GP and explain how you feel. It may help, if you have difficulty explaining how you feel, to write it down on paper. Then you can refer to it as notes when you visit the GP or just hand the notes over.
After seeing the GP things maybe clearer, I hope. Nobody should demand so much of you that it makes you feel suicidal, that is not love, it is being a control freak. Good luck
2007-10-05 09:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by LOOBYLOO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very young to place so much of the responsibility for your happiness on another person. You need to seek professional help because what you describe is not Love, but an unhealthy dependence on another person. It is obvious he does not love you, because Love does not require "proof", it just is. While you may regret breaking up for a week or two, getting help and getting out of an unhealthy relationship will give you the rest of your life to enjoy, which obviously you are not doing now.
2007-10-05 09:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wiz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 08:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break, maybe u guys are in each others faces too much. Try not to get mad at him... read dr. laura's book...i forget what its called, but it really helps. And try to show more affection (im the same way, so i know its hard...but if u want to keep him, u better change!)
2007-10-05 09:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by ♥stacy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, sounds like he is a control freak. End your relationship now, while you can, please move on with your life, is up to him to change and he won't .Get a grip woman why end your life because of him! You are in urgent need of advice, please click the link http://www.samaritans.org/ they will help. There is always someone for you, please don't end your life pm me if you are desperate
2007-10-05 09:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by naplusultra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY HONEY ANYBODY THAT SAYS THAT YOU HAVE TO PROVE ANYTHING TO ANYBODY ELSE IS TOTALLY IN THE WRONG. PLEASE SAVE YOURSELF ALOT OF HEARTACHE AND LEAVE HIM NOW. YOU DON'T NEED TO FEEL DEPRESSED TO THE POINT OF SUICIDE. JUST THINK OF THE PERSON THAT IS MAKING YOU FEEL THAT WAY. AND WHY. IF YOU ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO PEASE HIM THEN WHO IS PLEASING YOU? THINK ABOUT IT PLASE
2007-10-05 09:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by KESIANNA K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him in you know you love him set aside a time and date to talk to him let him know how you feel
2007-10-05 09:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by shonda j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With so much depression maybe you should be on meds.
2007-10-05 09:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋