Divorce fighting over the car?

Question

I am 26 yrs old and my hubby is 28 yrs old we are getting a divorce after 4 yrs of marriage.Our divorce has been dragging on for almost a year because we cant agree on anything so we keep going back and forth.We have 3 cars the first is my husbands brand new BMW,the second is the volvo(SUV Style XC90?)and the third is my toyota that is i brought into the marriage with me.I chipped in to pay for the volvo and my name is on the tittle but i dont make the insurance payments because i dont work.My toyota is 5 yrs old and has had some minor problems in the past but to be on the safe side for my kids(They are not his long story short hubby cheated many times and then i cheated finally in retaliation/being lonley but ended up pregnant with twins).So is it worth fight over the car?

Also the money i used to chip in to buy the volvo was money i had saved in a personal savings account since highschool into college.

Answer 1

You don't need two cars, but it's not really about the cars anyway, is it? Life is too short and your fighting a battle where there will be no winners because you have both lost already.
Let it go and focus on your babies and the future.
Best of Luck
:-)

Answer 2

Some of this can only be chalked up to experience. Now you will be awarded the kids and a vehicle because the courts will not leave you stranded anywhere due to the kids and any problems that may arise. Which car would be left upto the Judge if you two cant decide. The third will mostly likely be ordered to be sold and anything left will be applied to any marital bills. If any child support willbe awarded willdepend on the relationship status between hubby and kids,like did he adopt them or legally take responsibility for them or such. Get what you can, dont fret over the cars so much and get out and move on with your life and please ty not to make anymore mistakes with it, youve made enough now. Good luck

Answer 3

anything brought into the marriage is not considered joint property
so now down to 2 cars is the BMW also in both names
if in his name then the judge should give you the Volvo since he has a car and then the house would be sold and then everything split all assets since the marriage started.
make sure you have proof he cheated first so he don't claim you did since you now have twins from another man. are you and the father together or is it over also. good luck

Answer 4

I would say that fighting over the car should be the least on your mind!

Let him have the car, and you have the kids, I take it you are getting a divorce because you cheated on him, because he was cheating on you, ok, first, when he was cheating on you, you should have divorced him right when you found out, that way you could have taken him for everything he is worth!!!!

But, by you cheating on him, and having another man's twins, by the way, does the other man know that he has two kids out there????? That is probably another story.

Right now, since you cheated on him, he will probably get the cars, because you are not working, he can take it from you!

And from you cheating on him he probably will..........

My advice, take care of your twins!!!!

My mom has her name on my car on the insurance and she is making the car payments also, BUT I work, I am an elderly caregiver for my grandmother, so I work for my family, that is why the pay is sometimes good sometimes bad, because of my hours, they vary.

Plus, I have my 10 year old at school, which I volunteer at sometimes.

So my mom can do whatever she wants with the car, because she owns mine, and hers.

I know I jumped around a lot, here, but my main concern is the children and not your car, you can always get another car, but the children are irreplaceable.

Answer 5

You should keep the Volvo, let him keep the BMW and you guys sell the Toyota- split the profit from the Toyota. Take his name off the title for the Volvo. You each cover your own insurance, car payments and maintenance.
Why don't you have a job- I'm assuming because your children are too young...? Get a child support order from their father (if you don't have one already) have it put in the order that he has to pay half of everything for the children! Then put them in daycare or find a reliable sitter that you know so that you can get a job and support yourself and your children.

Answer 6

You are a true example of how materialistic and uneducated america's youth have become over the last 10-15 years. . It sickens me that the average young couple today have to live in a $350,000.00 home,own a suv and another vehicle that costs 40,000.00+ and think that this is the key to eternal happiness.

4 years ago you and him should have thought about what the words commitment and responsibility means.Instead you are on yahoo answers seeking advice and a shoulder to cry on from complete strangers and you are asking them to condone your cheating retaliation and asking what vehicle you deserve to take. Be happy and take the twins that you and your extra-marital lover made and jump in your 5 year old toyota and try to give the twins a solid foundation to grow up on. You sound like a complete materialistic idiot.

Answer 7

Even if you signed a piece of paper during a previous separation it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with this separation. Whether you get the car or not depends on your total assets and the needs of each party. It depends on whether or not you owned the car before marriage or purchased it during your marriage. Whether or not it is solely in your name does not necessarily matter. It also depends on which state you live in. Not all states have equal property laws. You didn't get enough information to make an educated guess. Just ask your lawyer about it when you get to court.

Answer 8

Well, I personally wouldn't drag this out any longer. If you still have what you originally brought to the marriage/relationship, then I say you leave w/just that. You may not have gained anything by doing this, but at least you won't have lost anything either. Besides, why add extra financial burden to yourself w/more than one vehicle, if you're not working. I would let him feel as though he won, and be happy with what is solely yours. Materials, are just that, and can be replaced in due time. Emotional stress can be effective to oneself and even loved ones around. You both are adults and are going back and forth over these cars, like kids do with toys. Focus on the more important....the kids. What led to the destruction of your marriage is irrelevant to the situation, it won't help determine who gets what. The time you spend at all these court dates could be time at work, making money for yourself and kids....or at least used to look for work to be more independent. To be blunt, to me, it's not worth it to argue over these cars.....costly, maybe, considering court and all, but worth it?..nah! Either way Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 9

It doesn't matter where the money came from, it could have come out your butt hole even however it would STILL be a marital asset just as the money you paid on the Volvo was as is the Volvo itself. So either fight over it or not it's your decision.

Answer 10

Two cheats don't make a right, as you have now learned. I think your best bet is to just get what ever you can and be happy about it. If you fight a long fight, the only ones who win are the lawyers.