How do you know when it's love?

Question

I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful guy but the connection that we once had is no longer there. How do you know when it's really love?

OK. Alot of you people answering me seem to think I don't know how important marriage is. Believe me, I know it's heavy but I'm not asking for your advise on marriage. I'm asking how do you truly know it's meant to be? We've shared all those butterflies and the honeymoon phase has been over for quite some time now. But we've always been connected and it feels like the closer we get to our wedding date, the weaker that connection gets. I'm not asking if it's "fixable." That's for me to determine. I want feedback on how you knew that he/she was your one and only. How do you know that he/she is the one for you for he rest of your life?

Answer 1

I think true love is when you can be yourself and they still accept you and vice versa, never having to explain who you are to them or them to you. I have some days where I am just sick of him or whatever, but I still can't think of any one else I would rather go home to. That I think is love, realizing you both have faults, but still wanting to only be with that one person through good and bad.

Answer 2

Love isn't just a feeling or a connection. Relationships need constant work... marriage may be hard if you're not feeling the "connection" you once had. Just remember that there is NO shame in going to relationship counseling or marriage counseling. You have to take the time to understand each other. You also have to take the time to WORK on the connection. It's not just going to happen... the longer you've been with your guy, the more you'll have to work on it. It will pay off, though...
On the other hand, if you honestly don't feel like you're in love with this guy, and you don't think it's "fixable," you shouldn't marry him... it's pointless and it will end badly.

Answer 3

You know it's love when you constantly think of the other. And can't wait to come home after being gone for a couple of hours. And the feeling of having a true best friend that will be there for you when you need them and the same back. If the feelings not there like your saying, maybe you should rethink the marriage because more than likely that feeling may never come back.

Answer 4

If you are questioning it, then you need to talk to your finace. This is about the both of you, not just you.

Are you out of the honeymoon period? What?

The honeymoon period is that initial "I love him! He loves me! We'll be 2gether 4eva!"

When it ends, it's the realization that he's not perfect.

The honeymoon doesn't last forever for anyone. BUT there comes a time when you need to realize that you need more than love to make a relationship and marriage work.

Answer 5

Hi
there are a lot of ways to know when it is love because when you talk to an opposite gender like a boy talking to a girl, both partners have this sudden feeling of desire to want to know more of each other. then as this process continues you start to feel emotionally care about your partner.
if a boy is flirting with a girl then she knows that the boy cares about her and it relates to the topic of love.
Asking a person to go out with is another example.
the very last thing that you feel love is when you naturally engaged in sex. this step should rap up everything together to be consider love.

Brian

Answer 6

Relationships are like everything else in life. There is a natural ebb and flow with good times and bad.

You know it is love when the two of you keep the vows you make to each other through all the phases of life and relationship.

Good luck.

Answer 7

here are some basic questions outside of love that you should be able to answer without hesitation BEFORE you get married~
-will you honor him ( right or wrong ) the rest of your life
-will you be faithful to him the rest of your life
-will you support him when things are so bad that it seems like the only solution is to divorce ( and not do that? )
-when he is sick and can not work and support the family, would you willing support the family no questions asked?
now, think of these questions, and ask yourself, do you believe with all your heart he would do these things?
Good Luck... think twice and marry once :-)

Answer 8

It's a feeling that is not questionable. If you are having doubts, then it's not true love. Don't marry a man that you will end up hurting.

Answer 9

All you think of is them, everything is about them, when you see them you get butterflies and and it just feels like your first love, everything just seems right. You feel complete with them.

Answer 10

when you can't stop thinking about them and you have been with them for over a long period of time ( my husband and i met 1 year ago and it still gets me everytime I see him or even his car I still get butterflied in my stomcah)