2007-10-05 08:29:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, he's just trying to avoid drama. Bringing you to his ex's house will probably cause more drama than it's worth. She will try to pick fights over stupid things and for now it's probably just best to keep the peace.
2007-10-05 08:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He should not have a problem with you going unless he has something to hide? This would make me feel excluded and not included with his son. I would be very hurt that he would not allow us to stand together as a united front to be accepted for what is ....and this is about you now and being a part of things even if other people have a problem with it themselves. There is no reason that you could not go along for the ride and wait in the car. If your husband wants some special alone time with his child he should explain that to you and I am sure you would understand. If this is the case after the two of you picked him up and arrived home you could always go somewhere and leave them alone for awhile. If it were me in your situation I would expect a good reason for him not including me and wanting to leave me behind because I am his wife and things should be done together and in agreement.
2007-10-05 16:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That does not seem right. You are his wife. If he is truly over his exwife then why would he have a problem with it? I take my husband all the time with me to pick up my kids from their dad's. We are all adults and realize that we have all moved on. There has never been any trouble and my exhusband and new husband are very civil to each other. I would question why he doesn't want you to go. Remind him that you are his wife and that makes you in God's eyes one person. The only reason I would accept (now this is just my opinion...) is if his ex is abusive or he feels would try to cause trouble with you if you were to go with him. Other than that I don't feel it is right and it should be addressed immediately!! Hope this helps and good luck!!
2007-10-05 16:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by TXBluebonnett1391 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It makes sense doens't it?
I mean if he is going to his ex's house, why do you need to be there?
If he needs for the three of you to be together, then he will bring his son to his own house.
If you go, don't you think that it'd make the situation awkard?
What's the point in you going anyway?
He wants to see his son, and probably wants to discuss with his ex.
Now, if you have a problem with him being at his ex's, you should suggest for him to arrange some visits with his ex, when his son comes to spend some time with him.
But, if I were you, I wouldn't be so clingy or possessive and certainly wouldn't try and come between him and his child.
Being jealous is one thing, but lacking judgement is another and would more likely to cause unnecessary troubles in your relationship.
2007-10-05 16:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to go? It will probably cause trouble. Why don't you see if he can bring the boy to your home so you can spend time with him. Your suspicious nature and lack of trust is going to do more harm to your marriage than anything you think is going on between him and his ex wife. If you marry a man with an ex wife and children you must realize that some part of his life is not going to include you. You picked him, now live with it.
2007-10-05 15:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
His ex may not WANT you there. She has the right to decide who comes to HER home. Besides the visitation order is between your husband and his son, not you and your husband's son.
2007-10-05 16:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
His ex probably don't want you there and has threaten to keep him from seeing his son , i know she can't do it legally but with all the case in court every day it may take several months to even get a hearing on the matter unless you're a celebrity so he is caught in between try and understand his situation.. I doubt he's still sleeping with her..
2007-10-05 15:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe his ex is a horrible person. He might understand the importance of not exposing his son to his ex's irrational behavior. Either that or, well, you know.
2007-10-05 15:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to go? Why does he have to go see him at his ex's, why not at your house? Do you have trust issues with this situation? Answer these questions by looking into yourself and and asking your husband. Go from there.
2007-10-05 15:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has problems with his ex than it may be not feasible for you to go.
If the relationship bewteen his ex is comfortable then you can go with him and help him spend precious time with his son and there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-10-05 15:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your husband about this. Just ask him why he'd would prefer you not to go with him to visit his son. Just be careful not to accuse him of anything and explain how this may hurt your feelings.
Good luck!
2007-10-05 15:48:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋