to go off sex? I've been married for nearly 20 years (usually quite a happy marriage!) but i have gone off sex. I really have! Even the thought of having to do it to shut my husband up, (cos its been such a long time) makes me feel sick! If i never did it again it wouldn't bother me.... does any one else feel like this?
2007-10-05 08:24:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeh my wife lol. . . .
But in all seriousness, is it not about knowing when she says
no it means no? wheather 23 and single or 23 and married,
any age for that matter, married or single . . .
but just like when i was 23 i still respect her wishes and he
need's to respetc yours . . .
with out my wife all the women and all the money and even
life it self wouldn't mean anything, so i'll be dammed if i'm
gonna throw away that once in a life time love of that once
in a life woman over something that's a natural occurance
when women do get to be a certain age, i love sex as much
as the next guy but let the next guy have all the sex he want's
life still wouldn't be worth crap with out that beautiful person
to wake up and go to sleep with as the years pass and
suddenly you find your self old alone and invizable . . .
I'ts about respect and and self control, but most of all what
you realy mean to him as a person and not a plaything . . .
2007-10-05 08:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ben 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I felt the exact same way about my x-husband but I was much younger. For the longest time in our marriage I thought my problem was all me. It absolutely turned my stomach to even think of having sex with him, much less doing it. I found out several years after our divorce that it was not me at all because my sex drive was amazingly back. Now I am fixing to be 37 years old and I believe I am in the prime of my life. And it's great too. Good luck and I hope you find yours again soon.
2007-10-05 10:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by marcy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is quite possible and nothing to worry about. Generally, we all go through lulls where its the last thing on our minds. However, I wouldn't let it last too long - even if you have to force yourself sometimes, its better than taking that pleasure out of your marriage. There are two of you and it just isn't fair on your partner to suddenly announce that there will be no more naughties. I think if you climbed back on the horse so to speak, you will find its easy to enjoy the riding again....leaving it only makes it seem like a huge problem that causes all that silent agony when you are sleeping like twix bars in the double bed!
2007-10-05 10:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure its possible. You would not be the first.
Its also possible that your husband will get tired of not having any intimacy and gives up on you.
To me, sexuality is a big part of marriage.
Were you my wife, there would need to be more than "doing it to shut me up". This would be a marriage breaker for me.
I think some serious investigation into the source of this is needed. It could be a health problem. Assuming the lack of a physical cause, it falls on you.
In any case you will be well served to find the cause and fix it.
2007-10-05 08:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you arent the first woman, and certainly wont be the last. Maybe you are going through menopause and your hormones are all over the place. Maybe its even because you dont have any romance as such any more, and the act of sex for a woman does tend to need romance and emotion to go with it. Have you tried "dating" your hubby again, making one night a month or whatever where you meet up in a pub and pretend you have just met for the first time. Its fun and does work.
2007-10-05 08:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You may be entering meno pause and that causes a lot of hormonal changes. Go to the doctor and get tested. Your husband will appreciate that I'm sure. If you enjoyed sex with him before then it is probably your hormones or lack of them.
Your body belongs to your husband and his belongs to you. You must do what ever you can to make this situation better. You may need counseling or sex therapy. One thing that might help is to talk to yourself more positively.
Hope the best for you and your husband.
2007-10-05 08:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some times people go through that . You will get over it some time. You also might want to think about trying something new? Also look into have a low libido. That is the cause of your problem. Good Luck.
2007-10-05 08:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been without sex for years, mainly do to not being involved. it just seems unnatural to want to stop it completely. I'd just have to think that instead of being a wonderful feeling binding the two of you closer, that it must have been very undesirable
2007-10-05 10:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since 1992, I've been with a woman who at 5 feet 105 pounds thinks she is unattractive.
No sex since.
And no I'm not a crappy lover, so you can shove that egg right back up the chicken. She would have 5, 6, 7, 8 orgasms a session. We used to f*ck like hungry tigers.
She says it's not me it's her. I reply "It's *US*, not just you." She will not get/accept tretment. Nothing works. Forget all the cute little lame-a$s "spice it up" ideas here. Like tossing eggs against a brick wall.
Life is HELL. Chemcical imbalance or not, women like you really burn me. You demand monogamy then stop putting out. Sheesh!
2007-10-05 08:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
maybe you need a break from sex eh? your man will probablty moan and moo around you but tell him you need a break
get a new hobby and make these lasting 20 years of marriage a worthwhile
2007-10-05 09:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋