question to mothers who have been though labour and brith twice or more...?

Question

i am 25 weeks pregnant with my second child i cloudn't be happier i just cant wait, but to be honest i am so scared when ever i remember the brith of my frist child. it was really hard i was in labour for three days and i felt like my life was going to end. well i will ofviously come to that point again but my question is... is it less painful does it get any worse or quicker the second time round, wen its your frist you dont know but because ive been there i am so panic about it and happy at the same time. please share your experience with me thanks. x

Answer 1

Every pregnancy and every delivery will be different....honest.

If you had extreme problems during your first birth, then I strongly urge you to discuss this and all of your other birthing concerns with your doctor. Pain management has come a long way, and if the doctor is aware ahead of time, it will make his job -- and yours -- a lot easier when labor begins.

Answer 2

Hiya hun,

I'm sorry this won't be what you want to hear! My first labour was 4 1/2 hrs. I was told when I got pregnant again that I would probably have a much quicker labour and they wanted me to go into hospital at the first sign of any pains!
Well my second child was 2 days late and 16hrs of pure hell. But they say everyone is different.

I wish you all the best
xxx

Answer 3

Congratulations first of all! Its normal for the first pregnancy to have a pattern as yours,subsequent births are known to be quicker than previous births.This is not a golden rule,but if u've had an uncomplicated labour before...chances are that you will be happier this time.My advice for you is to talk to your gynae at the next appointment as we dont know ur previous birth history.For the time being...'celebrate' your pregnancy,be happy and leave the rest to time.

Answer 4

I fully understand your fear, we all panic when we know what to expect, but no-one can promise you, a better time of it, my first was great went into labour at 4am, gave birth at 10 past 10 am, it was great my second lasted for hours due to induction for prem baby. every births different, but i really hope it won't take 3 day's talk to your mid-wife, about your worries. good luck with it all and remember you will be rewarded with a beautiful bundle at the end of it all, thats how i coped.

Answer 5

each labor and delivery is different! I have 4 children and my first was 6 hours, 2nd was 12plus hrs!!! 3rd was 3 1/2 hrs and my last I was put on a pitocin drip so that I wouldn't deliver until morning, to benefit my Dr. LOL or he would have come sooner!!
It does help that you have already had one birth, your cervix does become more pliable and tends to open faster, but there is no set time for labor and delivery! I certainly wish you well and much happiness!

Answer 6

I can't say this is true for ALL women, but for MOST women subsequent births are very much quicker and easier. Makes sense that this would be so, simply because the body has be stretched and adjusted for birth with the first child. This was very true for me, I too suffered with my first delivery, days of labor etc etc....my second child was born 30 minutes after my water broke and I had ONE contraction. No two women are alike, of course, but I think you can count on this birth being a great deal easier.

Answer 7

My first was 14 hours of labor. My second was 2 hours of labor. I have a suggestion for you - walk around when you are in labor - it makes it go faster. It hurts more but it is worth it. Another thing - sit on your bed cross legged - it helps the baby drop into the birth canal faster (It worked for me the second time around).

Answer 8

Its different every time and doesnt necessarily get any easier.
1st child - born on the due date, but induced cos Id been in slow labour for three weeks. Stitches and slipped disc (giving birth!)
2nd child - born three weeks late, but it was all over in minutes and relatively painless (compared to the others)
3rd child - born about on time, very painful labour, very small baby, very painful but not for very long
4th child - three weeks late, induced several times, very very painful long labour, but relatively easy birth.
But as they say, its worth it!

Answer 9

I really wish I could swear to you it gets easier, but it is different every time. I have had 3 boys and each one was different. I do think it is easier in the respect that you know what to expect and if you aren't so scared, it may not seem as bad?

Answer 10

each birth is different but usually the second is easier than the first as your body has been thru it before. try not to worry aboutit the more relaxed ur the less painful it will be . good luck.