Last weekend my man was out of town on a golf outting with a bunch of friends. He left Thrusday morning and was due to come home Sunday. Sunday early afternoon he called me and complained about feeling like crap because of all the junk food and fast-food he's eaten all weekend and he would love nothing more then a home-cooked meal and a hot shower.
So I said I would make him dinner, and I asked him what time he will be home, and he told me 6:30. I said I would have dinner ready as soon as he walked in the door.
So I bust my butt all afternoon putting together an awesome dinner of comfort food - pork chops, mashed potatoes, the works.
6:30 comes and goes and he doesn't show. I called him a few times and he never answered.
He got home at 8:30. They were "stuck in traffic", and he didn't answer my calls or call me because he was in a car full of his friends and he didn't want to appear "whipped". Oh, and he was really hungry like, hours ago so they stopped at Taco Bell.
2007-10-05 07:54:16 · 34 answers · asked by Maeve 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think this is a big deal. He dosn't think it was worth gettting so worked up over.
What do you think?
Would you put someone in the doghouse for this inconsiderate behavior, or am I "being a nag?"
2007-10-05 07:55:46 · update #1
Being inconsiderate is NEVER "no big deal". He asked you to do something for him. You did. He couldn't be bothered to call you and tell you he was going to be 2 hours late because he didn't want to appear "whipped"?. Give me a break. What he is saying is his friends' opinions are more important to him than your feelings, and that is something that I would not tolerate. You don't have to be bitc*y about it, but you need to explain to him that what he did was EXTREMELY inconsiderate and you deserve better.
2007-10-05 08:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that you are both correct and no it is not worth getting upset about, but definitely worth not cooking for him for a long time. As a married woman for 9 years, sometimes men dont know how to stand up for themselves when they think the view of friends is "whipped". As time goes on men in a realationship with true commitment realize it is out of respect and love for the relationship, that he will call with buddies around or not to say we are stuck in traffic,etc.... Should he show you love in return, yes he should take you out or cook you a home cooked meal. And out of respect for him, you should then in return thank him for his efforts and tell him I know it is hard to not seemed whipped in front of your friends, but I understand where you were coming from. And that I hope next time he can show his friends that he loves and respects you the same and calls. Good luck
2007-10-05 08:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Trina V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A complete lack of conseration on his part... and over and beyond on yours.
BUT... this is probably not the first time this has happened since he didnt think it would be a big problem, you have probably let him be inconsiderate before.
Tell him to Text message you... that is a very quiet way of talking to you.
That and - eat the leftovers yourself, don't let him have any, and next time don't make him anything when he goes golfing with the boyz... tell him you need him to stop at the store and bring something home with him.
2007-10-05 08:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by SuzyM 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He was without doubt being thoughtless Let him how you feel and tell him a nice dinner and a movie would make you feel a whole lot better.
By the by, wait a few weeks and watch his behavior. You'll find out the real reason he didn't answer his phone. Get back to me and ask me how I know.
2007-10-05 08:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be pissed. So stupid that he didn't call you to let you know they were stuck in traffic, cause he didn't want the others to think he's wipped. How immature is that! I can't believe he didn't feel guilty for it and here you work your *** off and you do all that cause you love him and want to please him and he does that! Yes, you have a right to be mad. You know he couldn't help the traffic, but just a phone call would of been nice out of consideration and respect, especially after it was his request. I wouldn't make him a meal all week. LOL MEN!!
2007-10-05 08:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
While I can TOTALLY appreciate why you're upset, this is not something to get into a HUGE screaming match over.
Your man is only as whipped as he lets himself be. He should have had at least enough balls to call and tell you that he was running really late (bar, traffic, whatever) and that he won't be home as expected. That's not being whipped, that's being courteous, and you can point that out to him as such. If his "friends" are such ******* to their women, well that's their business...he has a responsibility to you.
The taco bell thing would have seriously pissed me off though...
2007-10-05 08:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If my husband treated me with this much disrespect I would be very angry.....The excuse of being caught in traffic, don't want to appear to be "whipped" in front of friends is NO excuse for bad manners.....Not to mention you told him that you would fix him a nice dinner that he requested.....and he still decided to eat at TACO SMELL.....when he knew that you would be fixing something special for him.....I don't know that I would get into a big fight over this...but somebody sure would be getting the silent treatment for a few days.
2007-10-05 08:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you can pout and let him know that you are upset. But it's definitely not worth having a big fight about. Maybe just a little fight followed by some make-up sex. Plus, the food will reheat well the next day, so don't stress out too much about it.
2007-10-05 08:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not whipped. It is common courtesy after cooking a big meal - it is a lot of work. He would have answered if it was one of his friends calling and he was due over at a certain time right?
2007-10-05 08:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was inconsiderate and so what if he was in a car full with his friends. He should have more respect for you and called and said we are stuck in traffic. Dont cook again for awhile.
2007-10-05 08:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋