Wife is acting strange???...?

Question

Hey all…

Just a little background on me, I just turned 26, I’m a Hispanic male 5’11”, Tan, Great shape.

I been married with my wife for about 6 yrs, I have known her since I was 12; she is the only female I have ever been with in all aspects…

I just had surgery on my knee to repair some torn ligaments from a football injury a few years back, because I want to get back into more physical activities,

Now my problem is She (my wife) has been acting really strange lately, she has lost a lot of weight, stopped eating the way she used to, said she has to go to the gym everyday, but most important she doesn’t have sex with me anymore… she never seems interested in me like before, this has never been a problem, and I’m sure as hell not selfish in bed, I’m a firm believer in Ladies first…

Any thoughts???

I appreciate it.

After reading some of your answers, which I really thank each and everyone for their honest input, let me add a few things.

She (my wife) has always looked amazing, since day 1, she has a slamming body, and always I have let her know that…I’m’ always giving her compliments, and flirting…I’m not a macho kind of guy either, I work out, cause I want my wife to want me, and I like the way it makes me feel, also I’m a very sexual person…I’m always down and ready to go, she is well aware, lol. I never force her, but she is usually the one that gives the green light, like all relationships im sure…


Thanks

Also, No Kids, but a lot of financial stress...

Answer 1

Its time you spoke to HER...either alone or with a counselor (preferably). Tell her that you've noticed these changes (outlined above) and that you're worried about her being healthy, and you're worried about your relationship.

Answer 2

I am tempted to say that this is just typical marriage boredom, but I do get the feeling that something else might be going on. I don't want to freak you out, but there is the possibility of another man. Of course, that's just how it seems from your perspective. It's possible that she is stressed out about your surgery, or maybe depressed for some other reason. What you need to do is have an honest conversation, and ask her bluntly what is going on and why she has changed in her behavior toward you. Just see what she says. Good luck.

Answer 3

You should have this conversation with her.

I am just coming to the end of a relationship that fell apart due to our complete lack of communication. Every time one of us had a question or concern, we would discuss it with friends but not with each other. Because of this, we never grew together and were never able to know how we both felt about things.

If I could go back, I would do it so differently. Talk to your wife.

Answer 4

hey JJ,
this problem could get worse if you didn't write your question to get it resolved, because if she lost a lot of weight this could mean one thing-anorexia. take note about what she eats, how often she eats, and what kind of food does she eat-nutritious or junk food. also, when people is exercising a lot they are to maintain their body with plenty of nutritious food. if you don't see her doing these kind of things, bring your wife to the doctor because anorexia could lead to depression and more trouble.
on another view, sex is another important aspect because then you get that passionate feelings and love from your wife. maybe your wife is too mentally tired for this activity due to anorexia leading to tiredness.
another thing that i thought of is that she might have another affair, which you might need to find out. if you think that she never seems to interested in you talk to her briefly, try not to be mad, and keep a positive attitude if things go worse.

Brian

Answer 5

It sounds like you may have some legitimate reasons for concern, however this is all just conjecture until you talk to her about it. Tell her your concerns and why you are concerned. Remember communication is the key to all good and lasting relationships. Guessing, fretting and being frustrated only leads to anger and arguments.
It could be that she is worried about you getting your knee done so you can be more "physically active,". She may be worried about your intent as well.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like the 2 of you need to sit down and have a serious talk. She could be going through some sort of mid life crisis. The important thing is to talk to her about this before it becomes a bigger problem. Good luck, friend.

Answer 7

She is anticipating that you will become more active and wants to look just as good as you do, for you. Sometimes when people become caregivers, they also start caring more for their own bodies. It's common and not to be misconstrued that she would ever cheat on you. She's probably just tired and weight loss and exercise take alot out of you; believe me, I know. That's the lack of sex. She's not losing interest. She's just tired! Also, being a caregiver can absolutely kill a sex drive. Once you are back up and active, you'll see a positive change. Bare with her. She does want you.

Answer 8

mmmm time to talk with her, i think let the talk for later and fallow her, when there is not sex in the couple is the first sign of something wrong happened,. Well lets started with you why u said that u r in good shape, if u wife is in good shape means that both or you have extra marital relation? well u dont said too much i think, u have more to said, well u have kids?? or u r the typical macho man, ladies first but to the kitchen??? anyway well if u discover that she has another relation well is time to move out man.
Mujeres sobran y bueno si no tienes hijos mejor. But if you have kids lets thing first.
buena suerte!!!

Answer 9

ooooooooh. First sign of an affair....sorry. When a woman starts to lose weight and fix herself up that is a sure sign. The next big one is no sex.........start watching for late nights or more nights out with the girls or at work later......I can almost guarantee she is seeing someone or is planning on it....Good luck

Answer 10

Definitely talk to her about. I know when I worked out a lot, my sex drive increased. This may be opposite for her...cause everybody's different. Or maybe she thought since you were not 100%, you wouldn't want to.