If 2 people are split up, but still in love what would that mean?

Question

I mean in a relationship, if the couple split up but are still in love and love each other very much.
what could that mean?
Do you think it could work out again?
The break up was for various reasons a small alcohol abuse & arguing mainly.
but anyway, do you think it could be worked out?
or would the 2 just be better going on with life loving eachother, but not being together? and there is also a child involved.
what do you think?

Answer 1

wow im going thru this..but minus the child
me and my ex broke up 2wks ago, we still talk, were going to get back together, but not now, first we want to talk about our problems, find a solution, so that when we do get bk together things will be good,and stay good, and not go bk to the reason we broke up.
we broke up because we argue to much, and he always wants to be with his friends.
but we are working on it.
when feel like giving up he tells me how much he loves me, and tells me that i cnt give up on him bc we are gunna end up getting married
jst give it time
it can work out again,if you two try, it takes two
also if ya are gng to get bk together, dont date any one it only complicates things.

Answer 2

I think if u broke up it wuz 4 a reason not saying there is no chance 4 u 2 get back together but there must of been a reason why, and u still loving each other is natural i mean u r not goin 2 get over it that easy if u loved him but just see how things go. Everything happens 4 a reason, and the child is not an excuse he/she can always see the father without u two being together.

Answer 3

Well if the couple still love each other also if alcohol and abuse was involve the man has to go to them alcoholism center but if they love each other their life would be ruined they will always fell alone and no love and inside the heart they have to much emotions that they wanna take out but they cant also if theres a child involve think about it the child will be confused that their parents are separated think about his future about not having a dad or a mom together

if the man or woman like alcholo if they love each other so much and still someone of them has to go to them alocholic center and give it a try becuase they cant live seperated while they are still inlove

Answer 4

Okay...whether or not you were married, you were together for a while and you raised a child together, so of course your in love with eachother..but that doesnt always mean that its meant to be or that its what God wants or even whats right. Whether or not you think so right now, there is someone out there for you, and the two of you may get back together, but you also may not. But you will have learned a lot from the relationship, what you do and dont want in a family with children and how you do and dont want to be treated. So if yall get back together, thats awesome, but just remember if yall dont thats okay too!

Answer 5

As long as the love is there, there is always a chance to work it out. It depends on each's patience, effort and desire of working it out. To really love someone, we stick it through for better or worse. To really love someone we accept them for who they are at 100%, including they flaws. I say you two are just facing a hard time and it is up to the 2 of you to pull through...try different approaches and strategies, verses arguing. No one wants to live under the stress of arguements, so if you both can't establish "effective communication" between the 2 of you, then separation may be in order, but whether this is temporary or permenant will be based on how you both handle it and efforts made to fix it, if any. If you both decide to stay separate, it is definately possible to remain friends, but that too will take effort. If you put that much effort to maintain friendship, then why not go the whole 100 yards and strive to make that marriage work...Good Luck and God Bless....its hard, but managable, make a realistic goal, plan effective steps to reach that goal, and apply 100% efforts to get there...don't let petty alcohol break the love you both have!

Answer 6

As a psychotherapist who specializes in couples and marriage therapy, the drinking partner should be encouraged to seek help. Drinking, and the accompanying arguing and violence, is a serious issue that makes healthy relationships impossible. If the drinking partner does not wist to change, there is little you can do other than remove yourself from a potentially harmful situation.

In addition, it's very helpful when both partners see a family and couples therapist, especially since there is a child involved. The non-drinking partner must recognize their role in the relationship, too. The non-drinking partner often engages in "enabling" the drinking or situation to continue for their own personal reasons, such as fear of leaving, controlling her "messed up" partner, etc.

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Answer 7

It can work out. The alcohol abuse, small as it may be, must be addressed. AA or anything like that. It is obviously an issue to you. What is the arguing about? If you both truly love each other, seek counseling to get these issues resolved. You both need to want it though.

Answer 8

I think that the two just don't work so well as a couple living together or in a relationship they might work well as friends. Also with a child involved that wouldn't change much as long as the parents love that child, and if they are old enough to understand explain that the situation that is currently going on has nothing to do with them period.

Answer 9

when 2 ppl still love each other and a child is involved but have split up , can only mean that you will remain friends forever.
working out the details involving the child should be a priority.
a lot of couples do this and the results are stunning. stay in contact with him/her and maybe down the road, there will be another chance. only fate know's. good luck.

Answer 10

Don't you think that if it could have been worked out, you wouldn't be split up now? Gaet over it and move on with your life. So there's a child involved? So what? Are you willing to subject that child to an abusive relationship, to the alcohol abuse, and probably drug abuse too? Forget about the guy and move on!

Answer 11

I think with the right intervention or therapy or changes on the part of the party at fault, it could be worked out. Once you love someone you can always love them; some relationships don't end, they just change. The problem you stated is a common one and most easily worked out. Good luck.