I have a history of making friends with moochers who use me to their advantage. But this is the most recent one, she always beats around the corner about what she wants instead of asking me directly for something. The bad thing is she's older than me. She doesn't have a job, flunks her college classes every semester,even this one. She makes excuses so she won't be independent ALL the time to the point where I get tired of talking to her. Every day she complains of something that could be fixed. Like her parents getting on her nerves and how she wants to venture out and be famous....you're 21...move out!! I'm constantly transporting her around with gas tank almost on E, helping her find a job even though she's being picky about where to apply, and only wants to come to my house to use my computer. Every day she wants me to skip my classes so that I'll pick her up so she won't be in the house all day. Like hello I have my own agenda too!! I don't know what to do anymore...Please help
2007-10-05 07:27:29 · 6 answers · asked by lilkitt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say "no." Become unavailable. If she asks for a lift ask for some cash. If she's without it say, "Sorry." and don't drive her. When she comes over, tell her it's a bad time and shut the door.
This gal is not your friend. If she gets mad at you for pulling away, so be it. Quit being a doormat.
Speaking of fixable problems, your entire question is one. Just add water and you have instant backbone.
2007-10-05 07:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know exactly what to do, but maybe you are to chicken to do it. No one can take advantage of you unless you let them. One easy way to get over this is to stop taking her phone calls. Make an excuse that you need to study and can't go, or take her some where. You are in control of your time, and gas, so take control of your life and start picking better friends, unless you need to feel needed.
2007-10-05 14:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A WAOW~ ! lol, I'm going through the exact same thing =/ and this friend considers me a good if not best friend,. it's really bothering me, like he is very selfish, and *** hole, and he always betch's about his life, his parents, or his "beauty pageant" girlfriend, it really isn't as bad as it seems, but yet he takes it there. Yelling to me and cusing on how bad things are for him, and I just wan't to tell him that He has no Idea! lol, like does he have a friend yelling at him all the time! We both need to ridd of these's people, there terrible for us and our selfesteem. We both can do better, but I he is really clingy to me, running to me for every problem, it is difficult, and I'm a people pleaser, lol, but I'm growing out of it! :P,. lol
2007-10-05 15:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kindled and Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NO. Practice this. NO. It gets easier. I promise. If she wants you to pick her up, say NO. If she wants you to drive her somewhere, say NO. If she wants to waste your time complaining, say GOODBYE. This is not a friend, this is someone who is using you because you let them. Saying NO will make them move on to someone that hasn't learned that word yet.
2007-10-05 14:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by shellybellycocoapuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a friend.
You need to find nice friends who will do as much for you as you do for them.
2007-10-05 14:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha....
2007-10-05 14:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋