And they would tell you why?
I know I can be a pest at times but would like to know how I can at least find out what I did to a new friend.
2007-10-05 05:06:36 · 16 answers · asked by dragon 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Wow....um, maybe if you just really humbled yourself. Said something like...
"It seems that every time I REALLY want to impress someone my stupid gene kicks in. Then every time I open my mouth, it is only to change feet. Please forgive me?"
2007-10-05 07:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some times it can be a little thing that we were not aware of at the time , Ask your friend straight out what you have done to upset her ,if she refuses to say then it is some thing childish and she needs to grow up or she is afraid she will hurt your feelings so be prepared for criticism if you push her to tell you the problem. But this is how problems are solved ,because if you leave it ,it will bug you until you have an argument and lose your friends
2007-10-05 15:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lady here in my apt. complex for seniors decided she wanted to befriend me. She was a bit strange and not really sharp but I didn't mind listening to her gossip, she has lived here several months less than I, but knows every thing that goes on. She spends more than she has, I bought her cigs and milk etc. more than once, I would have her dump the trash or something so she would feel she earned it. I would also give her dinner several times a week or lunch, depending on when I cooked. She went to a yardsale and bought a broken 8 day clock with no key--her walls are already falling in from junk art. I did not show the proper enthusiasm for this broken clock and then tried to tell her how she might get it to work again--she has not spoken to me since then. I am fine with it, best friends are sometimes the old ones even if they are far away. I lost one old friend but she is (sorry) getting very senile. It is not your fault, remember that.
2007-10-05 12:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by lilabner 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a forthright lady so I would think the person knows you'd like to clear the air so perhaps this question will start a constructive dialog. Hope it works out for you. It may be nothing the way this site is acting up currently. Meaning the new work they are doing on Yahoo not the folks acting up.
2007-10-05 12:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you really have your act together and have had your share of ups and downs. If this is someone "on line" ,the problem is probably them ,not you. If this is someone in your personal life , try asking them a hypothetical question about "a friend " of yours who is upset with you and you wonder if they have any suggestions on how to deal with it.
Now stop worrying!
2007-10-05 12:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've had that happen to me. You may keep doing the thing that's bothering them, if you don't know what it is. Talk to the person and let them know you didn't mean to upset them. The longer it goes on without resolution, the worse it will get. Maybe if they will see your question, they can answer you better than we can. Good Luck!
2007-10-05 12:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You may begin by saying, "I have a problem." After a pause, allowing the other to accept your admission, you may continue with, "I don't unserstand what I have done to upset (or offend) you."
By using this approach you are accepting your responsibilty, and then putting responsibilty on the other to explain. It does not work with everyone, in every situation, but I have had a lot of luck with this technique.
2007-10-05 12:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, yes, I have.
My advice is this: We all meet people that we don't, for whatever reason, wish to associate with. Friends are different from acquaintances.
We can't make everyone happy. Don't even try. You'll go crazy trying. Just be yourself and those people who like you for who you are will automatically become friends. the ones that don't...well, it's their loss, not yours.
This advice was given to me many years ago by a very wise person. I'm passing it along to you. Believe me, it's going to make your life a lot happier.
2007-10-05 12:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by LaVere B 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, just that person had appointments, meetings, luncheons, cooked for this luncheon, had work to attend to and straighten out some problems that crop up every once in a while. Nothing catastrophic, nothing you did certainly, just other things needed to be taken care of
2007-10-05 15:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by slk29406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard, when it's someone in cyber space and you can't talk to them face to face. You might try to email them. Other than that, I don't know.
Just be yourself.
Maybe this person is just having some kind of problem, that she/he isn't willing to share right now.
With all of that said...you never said that it was a person from YA, did you?
2007-10-05 13:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, often. I've learned not to let it get to me because it's their problem if they can't look past it. Just ask is there something you said or did to offend them that would open the bridge to communication. I'm sure it's really nothing to worry about.
Good luck!
2007-10-05 12:43:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋