Okay,so i'm 6 months pregnant happily married for almost a month. Life is going great! Then last night at 1:30 in the morning my husbands cell starts ringing insanely. I'm half asleep but go ahead to check the number. It doesn't look familiar but something tells me to call it back. I sneak out of our room and call it. A girl answers and I know the voice emmidiately. It's my husbands ex g/f from like 3 years ago! I ask her what she needs and she tells me I have no business calling her back,what she called for is between her & him. I tell her, he is my husband and I have every right to know what she wants. Then she proceedes to tell me that he calls her all the time (which I KNOW isn't true!) and would probably be back with her if I wasn't pregnant(also not true,everyone knows he thinks shes NUTS and cannot stand her!) I tell my husband toTAKE CARE OF IT! He calls her back talks for less the 2 minutes and says it's Taken care of! Do I have a right to be totally mad! God knows I am!!!!
2007-10-05 04:06:44 · 32 answers · asked by Just Call Me Jenn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have tried being 'friends' off and on since they broke up but the last girl he dated got harrassed so bad by this girl(God only knows how she got her number!) that my husband doesn't have anything to do with her anymore. Plus,he's had the same cell number for almost 4 years now so thats how she has that. And the conversation went like this "Stop calling me,i'm sick of you calling me!!!" Then a minute of silence then he said " Yeah,sure whatever" and hung up on her.
2007-10-05 04:16:44 · update #1
Good for you...Let it out, girl !
Although I wonder, if he doesnt keep in touch with her, how does she know you are pregnant ?
2007-10-05 04:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The one poster, leaving traces, is right. I would pull up the phone records online or get the paper copies and since you now know the number, check and see the outgoing and incoming calls for that number. Never hurts to follow through and check. I do hope you listened to him call her...I would have! Why was she calling at 1:30 am? Especially if she knows he is married. Could be she is just starting trouble, so stay calm and just follow through on stuff, so you don't "wonder" about it. Yes, you have a right to be mad and he should not have been in contact with her at all. Did you ask if this was the first call she has made? Did you ask him how she got the number or how many times she has called previously? How does she know you are pregnant...mutual friends or did you tell her or did he tell her? I would just follow up on it, so you have peace of mind! Good luck sweetie!
2007-10-05 05:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you have the right to be mad and are you sure your Husband thinks she nuts because he really might be calling her I hope to God for you that he is not but were you there when he called her did you hear him talk to her?If not do you really think that it was taken care of? you can really never be to sure be careful with this situation I don't want it to end up bad for you! How long were you two together before you got married? If it wasn't that long ago do you think he just married you because of the baby? How old are you two anyways?
But in the long run I wish you nothing but good things!
2007-10-05 04:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal circumstances, I would say you don not have a right to be mad. But, I have 2 sons. So, I have been throught 2 pregnancies with my ex-wife. This is the correct thing that you are doing....vent. Because if you don't, you'll end up saying something you don't really mean. Seriously though. It seems like you already know your husband, so don't be mad at him. Be mad at the situation....not him. It is a very thin line. Just don't take it out on him, because she called. Obviously, she trying to start discomfort in your household. So....go ahead and be mad....vent it out....and return as normal. Love your husband...as you do. Just food for thought....
2007-10-05 04:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... you do. Somethings not right there. I hope nothings going on as she described it, and you sound pretty confident about what he thinks of her, so hopefully there isn't.
Why would she say he's calling her all the time? Unless she is totally nuts, I would be concerned about that. Did he offer any kind of explanation in regards to what she said? because that kind of thing could end up being a real trust buster between you and him.
But all that aside, she's an idiot. Because even if he was calling her, you'd have to have next to zero class to call him at home, at that hour with you right there. And then to say such heartless things to you? What's her deal? So for that, I'm really sorry that you had to deal with that nonsense and you have every right to vent.
I've got a huge softspot for expecting mom's so I had to say something... you take care of you and I hope your husband does everything in his power to make sure you don't have anything else like this to deal with.
2007-10-05 04:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are married with a child; YOU CAN BE MAD! Funny, I awoke off the couch 2 weeks ago @ 1:30 am to find my wife not in the house. After calling her on her cell numerous times I was ready to call the police. When I walked outside, the guy 2 doors down pulled into his driveway and wife was right behind him. We live in the middle of nowhere with nothing to do in the middle of the night excpect meet someone down the road to have fun. We are divorcing after 5 kids and 13 years of marriage. She still won't admit she was with him because she thinks I will try to take the kids aways. Bottom Line: If you can't trust him, leave him. Make sure you show him you are serious about his ex not making contact and don't be afraid to check his cell history and threaten to kill her if she calls again!!!!!!
2007-10-05 04:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes you do. Hubby might be telling you a lie. he doesn't have to call from the house or his cell. He could be calling from work or from a friend's house. If she is calling him then obviously he gave her the idea that he wanted to hear from her. For god's sake it's been three years. Don't be blind darling. Your husband might just be making you think that he thinks that she is nuts just so that you will be at ease. It happens. The only calls that come in at that time of the night are emergency calls and booty calls. Don't sleep too hard. Wish you luck!
2007-10-05 04:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by curious1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You definitely have a right to be angry. She was obviously out of line and is trying to break you up. Don't let her. Cut your guy some slack for now, but make sure to tell your husband how uncomfortable that made you, and that you trust him but accusations like that make you angry, and that you can't have a person like that in your life even as an acquaintance of his - not when she is so disrespectful. Changing phone numbers would def. help if he is being truthful (aka, wont give her the new number). If you find out they remain in contact, then you have a situation. But most likely she's just a jealous nut.
2007-10-05 04:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes be mad and she should know better than to call a pregnant womans house in the middle of the night!! Also she has no class and is desperate for attention if she continues this get a restraining order on her and be done with it. Good Luck
2007-10-05 04:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-14 08:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have a right to be mad!! wow....i got all red when i read your post. my ears are burning. what a freaking cow!!! three cheers for the hubby! at least he actually did something about it. did you get the number? start posting it all over chatrooms encouraging perverts to call her at 3am every night. okay....so that's not mature but it would make me feel better. be mad....it's okay. pregnant or not.
wow...what a pathetic woman. "he'd be back with me if you weren't pregnant". is that like saying, "i'd be so happy to have your sloppy seconds". point being HE'S NOT WITH YOU AT ALL!!! omg...i'm about to go on a rampage now. stupid whore.
i know exactly how you feel. i'm 5 months pregnant right now and i'd want to throw a temper tantrum too!
do you feel better now?
2007-10-05 05:36:11 · answer #11 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋