My gossipy neighbor?

Question

My 5 year old son is playmates with my neighbors 5 year old boy . They live 2 doors down.
Many times over the past few years I've heard that my neighbor gossips about me alot and basically can't stand me even though she is wonderful to my face, asks my advice, brings down homemade treats for our family, and tells me what a good friend I am.
Come to find out she has done and said some very mean, untrue and hurtful things about me.
I need to add that I am a great place in my life and she tells me how she wishes she could be in my shoes.
I have tried so hard for the sake of our sweet little boys and for the sake of being neighbors.
I know I could have her boy down to my house but if she is making up lies and she really can't stand me...well I am just terrified that she would say something happened at my home that didn't!
How do I tell my boy he can't play with his friend anymore?
I need to be honest with out saying too much and what the heck do I sat to her? Do I confront

Answer 1

Confront her,& tell it like it is. I'm sure the other neighbors will be happy you do this. She probably talks about everyone like this. I will not stop her from talking, but she will know how you stand, & have to respect you more. #

Answer 2

The best neighbors are no neighbors...I can tell you some really amusing stories about stupid neighbors!!I can tell you about my current neighbor`s who are kinda rude, gossipy, and in your face! I told her yesterday to avoid me, to leave me alone, and that I had enough of her childishness. I know she can`t stand me, I know why, it`s because the whole neighborhood knows I`m bipolar, and along with that comes a stigma..





And you can tell your children that this what happens when a person is gossipy and self centered.. They ruin it for everyone else....
So, listen to this. I have two little boys as well, she has two children that enjoy playing with my two boys. She knows this, we live so close yet it`s like we live in different countries because everytime my boys ask to play she makes up an excuse, " I`m cooking dinner, or, ahhh, they`re watching t.v", when the kids are standing at the door. So, I know somethings wrong... But anyways last month was her daughter`s birthday, and she calls me to tell me that we are NOT INVITED!!She does not want any hard feelings, she knows that the invitations are being passed around in the kids bags and she knows it will upset my kids. I laughed and told her she was an idiot and that I would not care one bit.. She hung up, there were a few other things with her that just set me off, like her dog eating my bbq, and her calling me about her drunk husband falling off scafolding. I told her " Don`t talk to me, you`re an idiot'. As far as your situation goes, be frank, and tell her why your not associating with her anymore.. Tell her your sick of her prattling behind your back..

Answer 3

This is a tough one. It is a shame how adults can act so childish. It is so unfortunate for the children though. I definitely wouldn't mention anything to my son about the situation as he is too young, and this is something that he just doesn't even need to know about. Start off by slowly limiting the amount of time your son spends playing with his friend. Instead of allowing your son to go over their house see if they can play elsewhere (such as local playground) Try finding other activities or placing for him to go. I wouldn't confront the neighbor. Just continue to speak when you see her, and appear very pleasant. But as far as conversation goes cut that off immediately. She doesn't deserve an explanation because she will probably just deny it anyways. Just let her wonder if something is wrong, but never tell her. Kill her *** with kindness. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

She is envious of you and apparently doesn't know how to build herself up without knocking you down. Find something nice to say to her such as "I just told Janie I think you have the prettiest (.....) hair, skin, house, garden, children....whatever... and I told her what a good friend you have been to me." Kill her with compliments. How can she continue to say mean things about you when you're saying nice things about her?? And don't ever, ever gossip because she'll pass it on!
I have a neighbor who, when she says something hateful about another neighbor, I always say something nice about that person. For instance, if she says that person is fat, or sloppy, or dumb, I will say, "They sure were nice to me when I was sick. They brought me soup and asked if I needed anything from the store."

Answer 5

She is just jelous. She obivously wants your perfect life. Confront her about it and see what she says. Ask her why she would do that. If she does it again don't speak to her. But don't move either you don't want to give her teh benifit of the doubt.