We should expect people for whom they are...who they were is not irrelevent anymore. Love is ment to be a scarifise and i keep getting answers from people that he doesn't love me anymore or he doesn't want me etc because i want to change him. All i wanted him to do was be honest. Is that asking to much in a marriage??
Asking him to leave is because i except he can't change and he doesn't love me. Why he is here is beyond me that my head hurts to sit and think why?
why can't men just go when he doesn't want to fix things. Why cause pain? Counceling is out of the question because he is always tooo busy. Lifes Sucks!! Well mine has been nothing but SUCKS!!
2007-10-05 03:41:51 · 26 answers · asked by feline l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are this sad, you leave. He is too selfish to bother to do what you want. Good luck.
2007-10-05 03:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
How long have you felt this way? Sooner or later you may wake up with the feeling this is the first day of the rest of my life it is then that you will not care anymore nothing he will do or say will get to you your heart will be closed. If you feel that he is cheating which is normaly an intuition you have to ask yourself will he do it again if you forgive him At the moment your need is greater than his, this is why your worried so much and taking all of this what will i do? where will i go? im the faithful one etc etc he seems to not worry and just get s on with his life almost sepratley from you you dont want this so how do you get back the person you married im afraid unless you go for a break you cant you will have to wait and see a little longer the truth will come out but as a rule once you really have had enough your actions will be voiced by asking him to go for a while it doesnt have to be the end he just has to see what it is he is losing
2007-10-05 14:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly this unhappy, then my advice is to do a couple things: 1) Remember why it actually was that you came together in the first place. - Was it because you were just lonely, and wanted someone in your life? Do you remember your gut feeling about whether or not to be with this person? If you got together just out of lonliness, and fear, and really knew in your heart that he didn't belong to you - then you may want to consider that you married the wrong person. 2) Marriage, and love is a commitment, and a choice. Love is NOT just a feeling. It's an every day choice to belong to someone. It seems as though, you are trying your best to make that daily choice, which is great. But is he? If not, you need to ask him why not, and get to the bottom of the core issues of what you are dealing with in your marriage. If he is unwilling or unable to work with you on that, you have only have one of two choices. Stay and be miserable, or go, and find peace elsewhere. Hopefully, he will want to work with you, but if he won't, there's nothing you can do. You can't make him. And at that point, you have to make a choice for yourself. Good luck. Be strong.
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2007-10-05 12:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest is way too much to expect from some people. Why don't men go away when they don't want to work it out? Usually because they are still receiving something from the woman or they just don't want to be alone. A lot of people will not leave until they find the next victim.
2007-10-05 10:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've never been married and i don't think i've really fallen in "love". But from what I do know, I think he loves you but he doesn't have that spark anymore. Maybe the fighting is turning him off. Maybe he feels like you don't trust him, which will make him afraid to say certain things because he knows you will always look for the faults and point out when you think he is lying. The truth is you don't know for sure unless you have hardcore evidence, so stop being untrustworthy unless you have real evidence to back it up... it will only drive you insane thinking he is hiding things. Just give eachother space and he will realize he needs you. On a more personal level, are you two still sexually active? He may be just holding on to that and falling in love with sex and trying to just be ignorant and carefree about how you are feeling because he wants to keep getting laid.
2007-10-05 10:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is too busy to keep the one they love. Without outside help, I doubt very much he'll change. Instead of asking why men don't leave.. ask yourself why women stay. Think about what you always wanted in a man. Why put up with less? Have some self respect and leave, it;s the only respect you'll get in this relationship
2007-10-05 10:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kerri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be like that, you take the bull by the horns and leave, I was like you two and a half years ago it got to the point where he was seeing another woman then lied, it made me so ill, so with the help and support of my friend, I packed my things and moved out, I got a house off the council, and now I'm really happy, if its really that bad just up and leave and make a new life for yourself, I've never looked back, goodluck.
2007-10-05 13:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by TRIKER CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think those people are right! I'm going thru stuff too right now and i don't know what is wrong with my man. But he didn't marry u if he didn't love u. I know u married him hoping he would just become a better man the man u see that he can be. But he hasn't changed or gotten better. Same like my man. But sometimes i think it has more to do with than just u. I think people love and love with all there heart. But sometimes they can't fight whatever the problem is that they have. And they know it hurts u and they want to fix it but they don't know how. And telling them doesn't work. I know it's hard but try not telling him what he's doing wrong.. try asking what is wrong and being patient sometimes it's very simple and we just can't see..
2007-10-05 10:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha1029 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not being honest in the marriage, that perhaps is reason for divorce. He may still be there simply because it is a place to sleep. You may have to be the one to go out and file for divorce
and get your own place and if you have kids, petition the court to give you the house to raise them in. consult a good attorney. Life will get better, as many divorced women will tell you, once you find the right person to share life with but yes, it will suck in the meantime.
2007-10-05 11:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling yourself. I think you need to see both sides of an issue. You are doing what to improve things. You also dont tell the whole story as you see it. Perhaps you need to be more involved in this joint life and I also think your asking him to leave and expecting sacrifice may be a little selfish on your part. Why should he leave if you are creating the problem?
2007-10-05 10:49:03 · answer #11 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋