Should I wait until the engagement, or let he/she know now before the proposal and spoil the surprise?
2007-10-05 02:53:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The actual proposal should be a surprise but marriage should be discussed before the proposal at least. See if you dont talk about marriage at all before the proposal there is a big chance that wanting to get married is not mutual. Then there will be rejection!
2007-10-05 03:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I talked about marriage before he actually proposed. I think it depends on the situation. It's fun to be surprised but then again.. I knew eventually we would get married but I had no idea when he would propose so that part was still a wonderful surprise.
2007-10-05 02:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by hootie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if you have been together, than they would know that your feelings are leaning toward a life together. I also think if you don't want to get hurt, maybe some discussion should be done in order for the other person know what you want, or it might be bad when they look at you and say NO. Sometimes surprises are not good, and some people don't like surprises.
2007-10-05 03:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least discuss the topic of marriage with the prospective bride or groom. How do you know they want to marry you? The actual proposal should be your little secret though. Just make sure they are ready and wanting to get married to you before you get your heart broken! Good Luck! Oh...don't forget to ask her daddy! :)
2007-10-05 02:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my most favorite teachers got married after my graduation.
I spoke to her about her and her boyfriend and if they were getting married and she said "we've talked about it. It's always been an option." He proposed and although it was expected he invited close friends for her suprise.
It's like having a baby. You can plan for it and be ready. Or suddenly have one and get ready. Either way, its up to the both of you to make it work and worthwhile.
You just better make sure that your loved one "know's you're gonna marry" them, and vice versa.
2007-10-05 02:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rafael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if my husband had surprised me with that news, i probably would have freaked out... i don't really like surprises, and that one would have probably given me heart failure... but if she is the kind of girl who loves surprises, then maybe? i would think you would have hinted about it sometime while you were dating to at least get an idea if she feels the same way?? congratulations, and good luck.
2007-10-05 02:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always fun to surprise but if you two are really open and know each other then you can talk about whats best and be mature about it
2007-10-05 02:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by pogieboy316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brethren, marriage is not a top secret mission. It is a union between two folks which is shared not kept from.
2007-10-05 02:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋