Advice to keep my realtionshop going while my husband is locked up?

Question

I am needing advice for me to keeo my marriage going while my husband is locked up. Like how deal with the separation, etc.

Answer 1

He prolly will see fit to spare you the details of his relationships in prison. Why bother him with your needful longings while he's bravely concealing his own wanton detours. I'm sure you could use a little stress relief...its gotta be tough.

Answer 2

To keep his spirits up and to add a little spice to your separation period you can write steamy love letters, send cards and photos.
It doesn't have to be "sex-filled" every time, sometimes just letters of love and support. He'll need that while he's away.

Also take this time to work on you!! If you've been wanting to change your diet, get a workout plan implemented, begin a hobby, do home improvements, etc...this is the time to do it. It's better to improve self and he come home to a new and improved wife than for you to lock yourself up in your own personal prison.

Have a personal night where you exfoliate, give yourself a facial, do your nails, hair, pop in a movie or read a book and remind yourself you're a woman.

Good luck and don't forget to have fun and enjoy your "me" time.

Answer 3

For starters, you left out one important detail, what did he do? Take this advise from a woman who was once young and dumb and who waited for her guy to get out of prison, run like the wind! If hes in jail this shows his charactor, this wont be his last time in the pokey. Studies show that most males who become incarcerated go back to prison or jail. As a matter of fact they become better criminals in jail. Now dont get me wrong, I dont mean evey single guy, Im just saying most. I know, your thinking this chic doesnt know me or my husband, my husband is different than the rest, oh please, guys who are in jail are not capable of being in a relationship, they need time, and you say hes doing time? what I mean by this is that your husband should not have any contact with you, when he gets released from jail he needs to be alone for one solid year to get himself together mentally! he needs to start all over again, kinda like becoming reborn, he needs major mental therapy, he needs alot of alone time. You see he went to jail for doing something wrong, this shows that he has issues that you cant fix, only he can. So leave him, I mean you really dont have him anyway. And being in jail doesnt count, cause I know how jail birds work, they all claim they are new men, they wont ever break the law again, there gonna get jobs the minute they get out, I think you get my point? they do alot of talking, but can they really make it? Yes if they have time alone in the real world, and they find out who they are and what they want out of life!

Answer 4

If I had a spouse in jail, I'd get myself more education, get a better job, find some volunteer work to do (to help others and help myself feel like a contributing member of society), AND I'd get myself some counseling with a good therapist. I would ask myself WHY I chose a man who was not honest and would commit a crime. I would think seriously about divorcing him and moving on unless he was genuninely contrite for his actions and was making plans to change. I hope I never have your problem, and my best wishes go with you.

Answer 5

Personally I wouldn't want a man who was going to be locked up. What can he do for you besides ask for you to send money, write you a letter, ask for you to send nude pics. That is about it. It does depend however how long and why? If it was a little jail time for something simple it may be different but if he was going to prison I would divorce.

Answer 6

i suppose i'm not the best person to answer this question, because if i were in your position, i'd think twice about being with someone who did something to go to jail for; however, everyone makes mistakes...

if you don't think the relationship is going to last through his jail sentence, and have to ask this question, perhaps you haven't got a very strong bond to begin with?

i would say, take time to see what happens and how you are feeling about him and the relationship. and take care of you.. you deserve good things.

Answer 7

You didn't say for how long he will be locked up. My ex was incarcerated for 6 months, I took care of my son and worked, went to see him as much as possible. My sister died while he was there was a really hard time for me. He was in prison in one state i was in another and she was 400 miles away in another. The only way i got thru it was with God's help. Just pray and have faith. God bless you and your family.

Answer 8

Write, call [ if you can] and keep him involved and informed of your life while he is away.
Not to over-do about how much fun you are having , but to keep him aware of any changes or just to tell him about your day to day life. Tell him about the the old Friend you met while shopping at the grocery store, the new mailman on your route,etc.

Answer 9

Get a girlfriend!Eating ain't cheaten!

Answer 10

Be kind to him because jail is not a picnic