My Gf says she loves me wants to be with me for the rest of her life and wants to marry me and start a family together in the future i love her to i can see myself with her for the rest of my life but sometimes i feel like she is playing with me i dont know i always feel like all of my gfs were playing with me i always expect the worse in everything and i dont know what she sees in me
2007-10-05 02:38:19 · 16 answers · asked by lost_soul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yorkmaybeblue i meant all of my past girlfriends no i could never do that to woman im a one woman man i wouldnt want a woman to do that to me so i would never do that to a woman
2007-10-05 08:03:50 · update #1
YOU have low self-esteem. If it were just one girl, I'd say o.k. but you're saying all the gf's. Then definitely it's you. Obviously you have something good to offer her and she feels comfortable with you, so work it out.
2007-10-05 02:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by yorkmaybeblue 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It makes me wonder why you did,nt say your age as this is very important with a question like this! But Im gonna do some guessing, I,ll bet you are under 30? If you are you need to slow down! It sounds to me as if you are not sure? and chances are your not ready, also keep in mind many marriages in this day and age do not survive. More and more people now days are getting married for all the wrong reasons, and most of them are not meant for each other. You must be financially stable, this means can afford to buy a house? can you afford to take care of your woman if she becomes un-employed? can you also afford to support a child if you have one with her? can you pay all the bills that will be coming in your mail box weekly? can you put clothes on her back? can you afford to feed her? can you pay for medical insurance? If you answered yes to these questions then you might be financially ready for marriage, but are you emotionally ready? can you look at this woman and know she will be the only one for the rest of your living days? If she becomes heavy will you still be attacted to her? Do you mind being married to a girl with whom you cant trust? If she is a woman who plays games this is who she is, and it wont change, this is whats called a charactor trait that she has and its not something that is easy to rid. This doesnt sound like a stable grown up strong woman, she sounds like a little girl! So if your ok with waking up every morning to a weak little girl, then go for it, marry her! But if you want a woman, either wait a few years for this one to grow up, or find another. Personally if I were a you, I,d send her packing back to her mommy and daddy.
2007-10-05 09:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that you need to stop thinkin so negative maybe she she is the one for you. But you are messing it up because you have had alot of other bad relationship. Every girl is not the same. You need to learn to think positive an less negative it will also get you father in life. Think of the furture. If you willl be with her how do you think it would be. Good or bad. An you always got to see things from both points of few
2007-10-05 09:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by judie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay the first thing that you need to do is to talk to her to see if she really cares and to see where are yall relationship going. Don't expect the worse out of every situation because you will be miserable for the rest of your life. If she say that she wants to be with you, then except it and move on.
2007-10-05 13:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by LiStEN<<<Is Retired!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have trust issues, your gf is telling you that your the man of her dreams and she wants you forever and wants you to father her kids and you think she's playing with you in what way. unless you have loads of money i cant see how that is and if you do have all that money you have to take that jump at some stage in your life or you will end up a lonely man
2007-10-05 09:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by lwade26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do u have money. thats always a good way to get g/f's. sometimes it can be other things too, but ur just going to have to learn to deal with this. its gonna be rough for a while but i think in time ur gonna be ok. maybe buy urself a puppy. good luck to u and i'll keep u in my prayers
2007-10-05 09:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just testing you, every girl does it to see if your the guy for them. Just give her time and play along everything will work out.
2007-10-05 09:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by hottie101 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel so, then I must be true.
This means she is playing with you.
You must know why?
If you want your gf sirious going out and want to marry
Then you better look for someone elese.
2007-10-05 09:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by standard69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then I'm afraid it's probably your self confidence and not her that is stopping you from trusting her. Tell her that you have these fears and that you are trying to work them out. I'm afraid that if you continue to expect the worst you are likely to receive it.
2007-10-05 09:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Emlou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she sees something in you that she loves other wise she would be saying those type of things to you if you think shes playing with you its probably to see if you are still intresterd in her..... so let you guard down and enjoy what you have with her!
2007-10-05 09:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋