My mother wants to divorce my step father of 3 years. I just started working at the same place as him in June of this year, and he has been really nice to me. I feel really bad for him. My mother said she's not in love with him, but I wonder why she married him in the first place. Nobody's perfect, but he's a nice guy. I've tried to get my mother to figure out what is making her feel this way. I feel SO bad!. What should I do?
2007-10-05 02:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by Eagiusti 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you should tell your mother what to do - from personal experience - that is a BAD idea!
However; her divorce will affect you too, so it would be reasonable of you to tell her how you feel. I get the feeling she is rushing and not taking her time to try and fix the marriage?
You're obviously very mature :) but at the end of the day, we've got to let people make their own mistakes/way in life.
I hope it goes well :)
2007-10-05 02:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Becci 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and ask your mother why she is divorcing him. She "doesn't love him" is a poor excuse for divorce when she married him (in love) only 3 years ago. Suggest to her that he's a great guy and that good guys are hard to come by. Perhaps she needs some therapy to figure out why she tosses men aside so easily. Remind her that she took VOWS to stay with him through thick and thin. If she is so selfish that she won't work to save a marriage she chose, then she has a mental or emotional problem and you can't help her. She needs a professional.
2007-10-05 02:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is not a whole lot you can do but voice your opinions. Be very careful in doing this it might cause problems with you and your mom. She might be depressed and no mother will admit that until they are ready. Does your step dad see what is coming? You might want to talk with him and hint around about things for him to do. Also you need to make sure that you are doing this for the well being of the family and not for your future. I don't think this guy would purposely hurt your job but you still need to be careful. Good Luck everything happens for a reason.
2007-10-05 02:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know ALL that has gone on as you shouldn't. Even though he might be NICE in your eyes, your mother may see or know something quit different.
You can tell you mother how you feel, but you have to respect her decision in the end.
2007-10-05 02:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business, she is your mother and if she wants a divorce, she should get one. It will not affect the relationship between you and your step dad.
2007-10-05 02:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your mother will understand your point of view.
Perhaps a better approach would be to encourage your mother and your step-father to seek marital counseling.
2007-10-05 02:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by greydoc6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing. It is your mother's life so stay out of it
2007-10-05 02:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it one of those things. as he told you why your mother as fallen out of love with him. try talking to your mother and see if there is any hope left. good luck.
2007-10-05 02:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really doubt your mother has ever been happy. This is her problem. How did she ever raise a good person like you? #
2007-10-05 02:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change your Mother's mind.Just be his friend even after the divorce.He will need friends.Good luck.
2007-10-05 02:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋