is it possible by will power to cast away gay thoughts and impulses and eventually live a normal married life with a woman and have kids? it's because i always end feeling guilty after male encounters and doesn't like to be an all-out gay. it's just the feeling of insecurity to be in a man-woman relationship if i end fooling my wife and family.
2007-10-05 02:09:34 · 23 answers · asked by Irvin G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is it possible to live a regular "straight" life? Yes... purge all gay thoughts if you are gay? No. You will always have them. Whether or not you ever act on them is up to you. If you are truly gay, and your natural attraction is to guys, then it will always be toward guys. The question is do you have the will power to never act on your natural impulses, and live a life without true intimacy. Yes, you and a woman could grow fond of each other... but if you are truly gay, there will never be that "spark" of excitement whenever you see her. IF you can live like that, then for you it is possible. **WARNING** many gay men have tried this before. Few are successful. Many lives are ruined when a gay man refuses to accept that he is gay. More than likely, it will eventually find its way (all those gay feelings and impulses) into your "straight" life. Can you live with that if it does??
2007-10-05 04:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tim A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, can I say something about that...I have had gay friends for years and this is what we have talked about...As a straight woman would I want to ever sustain an intimate relationship with a gay man or once gay man..NO...the latter I do not believe exists...in all fairness to your one day family, can I tell you some of my observations...Some gay men who marry for security reasons end up at leather bars when the wife goes home to visit mom and dad...I have talked to some of these men when they have come home in the wee hours with my gay friends...and you know something it is the wife that I feel sorry for...she did not sign up for this...and does not deserve it
this is bigger than she is and will be with her to the rest of her life...so why would you want to do that to someone just for security on your behalf...if you want children...adopt or find a surrogate but please for the sake of some unknown womans emotional and mental health please do not assume a straight role and live a hidden life
2007-10-05 02:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The evidence is that it never works. Ever. And believe me, I know the pressure to "act" straight and live the dream of having a wife and kids and a house in the suburbs. I loved my wife very much, but I just could not bring myself to have intercourse with her. I wish for all the world that I'd recognized and accepted my homosexuality back in high school, in spite of how I would have been treated. If you haven't already, you might ask your question in the GLBT section here, under Society and Culture - Cultures and Groups, for a lot of first-hand experiences.
2016-05-21 07:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that would be like a straight person casting away their natural impulses. It's not going to happen. Be honest with your self and others. Or you will never truly be happy and you will end up hurting others.
2007-10-05 02:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jinger Rose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if converted is the right word. You can be actualized. Think about what you really want, what you really love. Your desires, fooling around with other guys, are really expressions of your lost identity.
You are a man. You belong with a woman. Nature has intended it to be so, for the propogation of the species. You have your choice, but to fulfill the measure of your creation, you should be with a woman, and a woman only. Be faitfful to her, and thus, faithful to yourself and your purpose as a man.
2007-10-05 02:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, anything is possible. But, and this is a big but, it is not likely to end well for you. Things will bubble up and can't be tamped down forever. Even Jesus said, let those can marry do so, but it is not for some and they should not (paraphrased). There is much debate exactly what he was talking about, but some say it was homosexuality. Others say that some people just can't commit.
2007-10-05 02:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Convert ? NO - Disguised - yes - if you're eager to run a double life - with wife and male-business - this is ok - otherwise your level of frustration could be very high - I know a man experiencing such a life - his nerves smoke
2007-10-05 02:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can have a gay man TRY to live a straight life but deep sown he will want a man, I think if you are gay you CANNOT be converted to straight maybe to Bi but never straight
2007-10-05 03:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I know that if your gay, it CAN NOT be changed. But if you feel guilty after male encounters, then you might enjoy to be with a woman. If you are with a woman, make sure you and her get.. somewhat close, close enough to tel secrets, then let her know that your Bisexual....
hope it helpss
2007-10-05 02:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by Slim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could contemplate someone other than yourself. Would it really be fair to the woman to not give yourself 100%? At least let her know there will be a chance of cheating and bringing std's to the relationship.
2007-10-05 02:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋