be a huge drama and intimidate you and basically tell you that you aren't efficient enough and decide to pick on something around the house and put you down if you aren't keeping house properly?
Do most women have to put up with it or is it just me?
Do men like to intimidate women?
and try to start arguments just when everything is really relaxed.
2007-10-05 01:46:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously a fair amount do feel that way (though I certainly don't claim to "know" most men and neither do you). Equally obvious is the fact that this is a dynamic you're dealing with, and that can understandably be an enormous pain. Bossing people around (regardless of which gender espouses that behavior) is more indicative of insecurities on the part of the "boss" than anything else. To some extent we're socialized that way, but largely we've all had sufficient time to observe changing attitudes (with regards to gender roles and responsibilities) and have wisely modified that behavior. Since this is not the reality you're currently enjoying, perhaps you could both benefit from some in depth communication that gets at the core of your difficulties....(if this is too difficult to accomplish by yourselves, then I recommend securing insightful professional assistance before resentments have the opportunity to set in.) Good luck to you both in this effort.
2007-10-05 02:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think men try and do a lot of different things to get their way. Intimidation works with a lot of women. My ex scared his sister so bad once that she picked up her children and left and went home and called me and offered to come back and get me. I told her while he was listening, "No, I'm going to stay here and watch him throw his "Little" fit because if I leave he'll think this "attempt" to intimidate me worked, and I'll have to put up with this kind of crap the rest of my life." Mind you now that this was his first time behaving this way and we were newly married. His "fit" started with his face turning red and screaming at me like he was going to kill me, knocking things over, off tables, punching walls, etc. and culminated in him throwing a coffee table toward me." I never moved an inch, except for reaching over to answer the phone when his sister called, and dared him to hit me with any of it. When he stopped, I told him, "Now, unless you want me to hang around and watch you throw the TV across the room or something, I'm going for a walk while you clean up your mess!"
!!!!!!!!!! Ladies, I am not suggesting that you attempt to do this, particularly if intimidation is something he's been using successfully already. You've already set a pattern, and a lot of men who act this way are actually very dangerous!!!!!!!!!!!
Best to just leave and find someone who is not this selfish. I was married to that man for 22 years and although he never tried to intimidate me with violence again, his selfishness never ceased.
2007-10-05 10:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine did and then I got rid of him my new husband does everything around the house and helps me so much I wouldn't even dare to intimidate him or put him down ( I just enjoy seeing him )
2007-10-05 08:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be no way in hell that I would tolerate that from any man and I don't give a damn who he is.
2007-10-05 09:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are like that. not all. my husband is not like that. we have a loving, equal relationship. seems you need some marriage counseling.
2007-10-05 08:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by marinelover28540 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack. Move on!! You should not have to put up with that.
2007-10-05 08:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋