What do you think of this:
Husband I have been arguing. I am in school FT this semester and can't cater to all his needs. I do everything for him.We fight wednesday night and thursday morning.
So Thursday morning he wakes up daughter and gives her a list of 5 things to do.
1.Make a pile of clothes you can't wear
2.pile of school clothes
3.pile of play clothes
4.pile underwear/socks
5.line of all shoes by TV
6. put all trash in a bag in hallway
7. ball uniform setting by itself
All of her stuff was either in drawers or on hangers. She had to take them off of the hangers and out of he drawers.
Then he woke her a gain this morning with another list
1.get all shoes from downstairs
2.put clothes don't wear in a trashbag
3.pick 10 sets of underwear to keep
4.pick 10 pairs of socks to keep
5.ten outfits to keep
6. pull ball stuff aside
7 pick 5 pairs of shoes to keep
8. all the rest put on bed
9. towels and dirty clothes in clothes hamper
10. keep 2 pajama's
2007-10-05 01:43:30 · 13 answers · asked by momof2 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him that we need to talk about these things.Because I don't know where he is going with all of this.
He said that no we don't - this is the way its going to be.
I told him that he was not the king of the house. We need to discuss things.
He said that yes, he is and there is nothing that is going to be discussed.
I'm not saying I have a problem with his intentions. I don't what they are??? He won't talk to me and says there is no reason he should talk to me.
2007-10-05 01:44:07 · update #1
You need to tell him you're the Queen of your house and you're going to show him what you think of his lists. Tear them up.
2007-10-05 02:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be afraid, be very afraid. Insist on knowing his intentions! Protect children at any cost to the marriage. Apparently he has gone over the deep end and is taking his anger for you out on the child. Be prepared to leave if necessary.
2007-10-05 10:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by The Voice of Reason 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any effective communication in your marriage! First and foremost which is an RED FLAG for the both of y'all. Second he is now blocking you out of the situation and punishing the daughter through his frustration which is totally absurd.Which is Abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You all need to Stop the madness now before it blows up uncontrollably handle it like adults. There is an emergency need for help!!!!!!!!!! Even if you must get a Third part to mediate. Now is the day please do not let another day go by!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It isn't healthy for the whole FAMILY......................................
2007-10-05 09:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Tricey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep. he has dragged your daughter into it. He obviously feels threatened that he cant bully and control you anymore( ft school is a big threat to him). So now, he has decided to use your daughter to get to you ( and bully her as well). Demand some therapy/counseling.
2007-10-05 11:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he obviously thinks she has too many clothes, and he believes she does not wear all of them, so, thinks she should get rid of them, mostly the ones she does not wear... =) nothing wrong w/ that! =) maybe he plans on getting her some new ones...? her birthday coming? christmas is coming, too... my husband had me get rid of a bunch of stuff too... and he was right... we all had too much stuff! maybe he does not want the girl to become so materialistic, either...
2007-10-05 09:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What I think of this is that it's extremely odd that your husband's list of five things he wants his daughter to do contains seven items. Freaky!
2007-10-05 08:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is never the job of kids to keep the house!
it is our job regardless of the lacking in spouse support however that came to be!
kids job is to play goto school learn and grow up
in fact it is not even her job to love us
it is all us
we are the one standing in the need of prayer not her!!!!
if was him I would be ashamed
2007-10-05 11:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by l33nix 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know what he is doing either but he is using your child. You need to confront him and do not have your child do these weird things. You and he need to have a pow wow (preferably with your NOT home)
2007-10-05 08:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he has no respect for you, I dont understand either, you should demand he talk to you.
2007-10-05 08:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a marriage without communication.
See a counselor or leave.
2007-10-05 08:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋