A friend of mine has been dating someone for a long time and it was moving towards marriage potential. It came to light that years ago they had participated in the making of a handful of porn movies. The have absolutely nothing to do with that industry today whatsoever. Would you still marry the person regardless of their past? Why or why not?
2007-10-05 01:23:24 · 23 answers · asked by Martin R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mean Carleen: I don't have a problem with it, my friend is confused and I'm at a loss for what to say. I'm one of those people that realize that people screw up and as long as they keep going forward then it's a life lesson learned. I also realize many people can be harsh and judgmental.
2007-10-05 01:30:37 · update #1
And to clarify the STD issue it was YEARS ago and I am assuming that they have been to a doctor in the course of their lifetime and that as part of overall check ups tests for these things would have been done. That's not the issue-it's more the social stigma, personal values etc.
2007-10-05 03:02:20 · update #2
No. The past somehow always catches back up to you. #
2007-10-05 01:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 04:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that before marriage I would have to watch the movies in order to see how they made me feel. I can't imagine simply deciding, "It's in the past," and then never thinking about it. I think that if I didn't look at the movies, the thought of them would often nag at my mind and bother me, making me curious. If I watched the movies prior to marriage, though, I would find out how they make me feel. On the one hand, they might upset me deeply, to see this person I love having sex with someone else. If so, I could break off the engagement, which is bad, but still much better than marrying and later divorcing over the movies. On the other hand, I might find out that the movies don't bother me. For example, I might be able to see that making them was just a "job" for my partner at one time, and nothing more. Best case scenario, the movies turn me on, and I feel lucky to have such a desireable, sexy partner. Bottom line, I think the issue of the movies needs to be addressed head-on before marriage.
2007-10-05 01:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that came to my mind, when I read your question, is has the person seen a doctor recently, and gotten a clean bill of health. I've noticed a lot of the actors and actresses in porn, seldom use protection.
2007-10-05 02:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant judge someone for something you werent there for you. Thats a problem alot of people have, they judge you for something that already happened and you cant change the past. If they fell in love with the person you are, it shouldnt matter what happened in your past. We all do things we wish we hadnt but all you can do is move on and try to do better next time. So i dont think its a problem especially if its done and over with
2007-10-05 01:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call me judgmental but i would never never marry anyone who is involved in porn movies..There are thousands of ways to make a decent clean living but to me these people choose the easiest way to earn a living. It's not an excuse that they were forced to it because of difficult circumstances. Besides, there's possibility of STD and all.
2007-10-05 01:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by still 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...yes!!!....so long as everyone involved including myself was being mentally honest respectful and NOT dysfunctional about it all reasonably....what else? Porn stars ARE people too ya know! Great sexually well intended magical partners don't seasonably come around all to often enough in most peoples lives alternatively. When ya DO find one accidentally.......you should at least try to create some good thinking with them, and then get down to some fabulous sensual business with them reasonably. How else are you gonna know what would possibly occur with them if ya never even bothered to try otherwise?....agreed? LOL!!!
2007-10-05 01:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't matter to me one bit, as long as they were disease free. Making porn movies isn't much different than having had a number of lovers (just happened to be filmed) and the # of sex partners an adult has had is immaterial...
2007-10-05 01:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have pasts that we may or may not be proud of but I would love to be judged (if I had to be) by who and how I am today. If they made these movies together...whats the big deal or is it YOU that has the problem with them as a couple?
2007-10-05 01:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she had changed from the heart mind you,both of them are coming out of the same industry
2007-10-05 01:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by rev richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - I probably wouldn't. I would worry about diseases because most often they do not use protection in porn movies. I just don't respect people who allow themselves to be filmed that way for others to view.
2007-10-05 01:27:35 · answer #11 · answered by Love being a Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋