with the present generation we're in,do you still believe in preservation of one's virginity before marriage?

Question

i know porn's really contributed a lot with the fast rise of pre-marital sex since early 2000; but do you think marrying a "virgin" is good? or not?

kindly state your reason,whatever your stand is...

thanks a bunch! *mwahh*

Answer 1

marrying the person you love is what is important, if she is a virgin, think about how fantastic that someone waited just for you to give themselves to. porn and their stars are entertaining, but if you ever see how a porn movie is made, you would not be that impressed.

Answer 2

There are still virgins out there?

Ok, kidding.
The preservation of virginity until marriage is an antiquated practice left over from the days and times of the Pilgrims and even earlier with the Puritans who looked to escape England for many reasons. Religion in those days was the only thing that ever made sex 'dirty' instead of it being a natural and healthy thing.

The dark truth about people even then was that people still did it before marriage on the sly. Since this was over 300 years ago, I don't know what you are talking about when pointing to porn and a 'fast rise of pre-marital sex' in only the last few years.

On one hand, I suppose it can be a special thing that a potential mate is a virgin. I can't really see how, but some might say so.

On the other hand, a person who goes through a sexual experience for the first time often has all the strange and new feelings that come with a first time. Once a person is beyond those feelings, I think he/she might be less hormone-driven and more honest about his/her feelings. I have to believe and experienced person who says 'I love you, let's get married' is much more likely to stay married than a first-timer who says that.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You must be young, pre-marital sex has always been high, society has forced young girls to lie about being virgins since puritan days. My little sister told me when she was about 10 that she had sex for the first time at girlscout camp. she said she just wanted to know what all the fuss was about. Then she told me she was going to become a virgin again so that the boys and parents wouldn't think her a slut. Forced to lie for social acceptance!! What you do with your body is really noones business. If you can look at yourself in the morning and haven't done something you can't live with, then you're as good as any virgin anyday!!! In reality noone can tell if their partner is a virgin or not. Marriage is fragile enough, focus on who the person is now, not what they did in the past. Once you're married, this issue will be the least of your concerns.

Answer 4

I say, marrying a virgin is not good, not just because I'm a guy & I want someone w/ experience but beyond that shallow reason is an ideal that virginity though connotes purity & being virtuous has been tied to the flesh. It has been overated & twisted. Even St. Augustine, a doctor of the Church says that "purity dwells in the soul." Therefore virginity is not incorruption of the flesh.
It is as if virginity is greater than marriage but Merit is measured not only by the kind of action, but still more by the mind of the agent so, what is

Answer 5

I would say no, marrying a non-virgin helped getting out of those taboos about sex, pregnancy and experience. It also helped being better at bed hence we both had our experience and ways it made the relationship interesting on the bed.

Also I don't think pron had anything to do regarding the sexual liberation of the 90's, society just had to give into it, it was a social inevitability.

Answer 6

I am 40 and will not have sex till marriage. Its not easy finding other virgins from my religious faith to date . Society has made things really tough for us virgins, but all the more better, as i love a great challenge, and staying a virgin till marriage is the greatest challenge of all.

I will have kids one day and i know when they turn 17 or 18 they will ask if its ok to have sex till marriage. I will of course not only say no, but i will tell them if "your father stayed a virgin so can you lol" This is only one reason why i get strength from staying avirgin. The others are i will have a great gift to give to my future wife, that few men these days can save.

I say to society , please make it tougher on us virgins, give me an even better challenge. Virgin till marriage or virgin forever. With this part of myself there is no compromise.
I will not contribute to our society getting even worse.

Answer 7

well personally i dont think there is anything wrong with marrying a virgin , and there is nothing wrong with not marrying a virgin. You see i dont really believe in the preserving of ones virginity b4 marriage but i can tell you one thing for sure that, currently its is very difficult to get a virgin.

Answer 8

It is difficult to defy the "norm" in a social context, without appearing odd. However remaining virgin before marriage, though, is and should be, an entirely personal choice. There is nothing "good" or "bad" about it, except the conviction of your own beliefs.

Answer 9

Not at all. I think a couple should know each other inside and out before they are married. I advocate that everyone should live together for at least a year before marriage. Until you spend day and night together for a long period of time, you never truly know the person that you think you love.

Answer 10

there are still people out there who choose to be sexually active only after marriage and only with their spouse. it is ok to wait, and it won't hurt you. it may even add some intimacy to your relationship.

you will also avoid the hardships associated with stds and early pregnancy, though some of this can be averted through safe sexual practices. many relationships that seem destined to lead to marriage end up failing. if you make a practice of sleeping with every person you start a relationship with you may start to notice a high tally of sexual partners, which definitely can increase your chances of contracting stds.

the negative side of waiting is that you dont get to have sex, which is negative in and of itself. also, it may take a while before you and your partner find a level of sexual intimacy that you are both comfortable with, but this process is inevitable with every partner anyway, whether you have many or few and whether you begin having sex sooner or later.

Answer 11

I think someone is selling both themself and their spouse short if they have not made some sort of exploration of their own sexuality first.

Perhaps that is why evangelicals have the highest divorce rate; people's sexuality is artificially delayed, and only blooms after one realizes they are married to someone they are sexually incompatable with.

To me, it'd be worse than finding out after you're married that your spouse hates your favorite dish/restaurant/vacation spot, or finds your favorite book/movie to be ridiculous tripe.