What would you do?

Question

This past weekend my family and my husbands family had it out. His mom thinks it's ok to go through my paper work while I am at work (bill's etc.) Well she has even been calling my credit card companies (which has given her my info) I used to be a single mom before I remarried and I depended on my credit card it wasen't that I was careless about it but it did help with food and diapers. I am still paying for it but I work a job I don't ask my husband for money so am I in the wrong to tell his family to mind there own business....?

My husband and I have our own place, she has a key because she keeps our little boy while we are working. That way if she needs something for him she is able to get it. I just don't think it is right for her to take advantage of it. I would not go through her stuff.

Answer 1

Doesnt really matter about your history. No-one should go thru your things. I understand they are concerned about what their 'boy' may be getting into? Let them worry. Hide your paperwork, lock it up if you have too. I know i would be really angry if this happened to me. She could be in a bit of trouble for this, so could your credit company........she would'vehad to pretend to be you to get the info? and they didnt screen her properly..
If you dont want to confront her, dont leave things lying around. If it were me, I would confront her. I would be too angry not to.

Answer 2

You are 110% correct. She can't go through your personal things like that!
Is there really a need for her to have a key to your place? I mean, I understand that she watches your son and all, but on the other hand, millions of people use daycare centers and so on, but don't leave them the keys to their residence. I could understand it if your son has special needs of some sort (medical necessities - for example, she might need to get medication or something for him - something like that), but other than that, if it is only to get toys, something along those lines, then I'm sure he will do just fine, and be able to do 'without' until he gets home to his mom or dad. In short, if she has no need real need to have a key, then take it away from her - or better yet, change your locks in case she made a spare.
You mentioned that you would never go through her stuff? Maybe the next time you are over there, you should start looking through her personal things, and see how she reacts to the shoe being on the other foot, so to speak?

Answer 3

i used to be very concerned about my wives credit card balances.She would have money, but use the card, then be lazy about paying it off letting the debt accumulate.

I had to refinance twice to get rid of the accumulated cc debt, each time her promising not to use it anymore. We would be good for 3 months then it will start all over. I wished that I could tear them up and block her from getting a new one.

I have 1 card and pay it off every month. I refuse to have any joint accounts or cards with her...

She tells me to mind my own business.

Ready to lose my home.... because I don't interfere with her business....

His parents are just stepping in where the husband probably hasn't a clue to what's going on. The way his parents are going about it is probably wrong, but they also do not want to throw their life savings to your credit card company either.

Maybe you ought to show understanding and communicate with them???

Answer 4

That is almost criminal in nature. I would call the credit card company, and tell them what has happened, and give them a code word that only you know, if someone calls for information. Your husband should be standing up for you on this issue, because you have a right to privacy, even from him on certain things in your life. I see no reason not to tell him about the bill, but as long as you are paying the bill it shouldn't bother him that much. I would success that you go get a lock box to put your important things in, to keep meddling eyes out of.

Answer 5

I think this is insane!!!!! Yes she is wrong. I don't care if you live in their house, she should mind her own business about this stuff. Unless she called the companies and paid it all off -out of love and nothing else, that is the only excusable reason I can think of for her to find out this information. She is really going to be a hand full unless YOUR husband makes her stop it.

Answer 6

Say what the credit card company's gave out your info. Well they are in violation of your privacy and can be in a lot of trouble on that and also your mom is very wrong in going through your personal stuff.

Answer 7

I think that his family needs to stay out of your stuff. He needs to confront them though, not you. If you do it, they will only be more upset with you and cause more trouble. Take it from someone that knows.

I also need to ask....How is she getting into your home? Do you live with her? If so, move out. If she has a key, change the locks. If you have specific paperwork and cannot move at this time, buy a lock box and store all of the information that you want her to keep her hands off of in it and tote the key with you at all times.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

He should be the one telling his family to mind their own business.
Start putting your paperwork in a lock box so she can't get to it.
You can also call your credit card companies and tell them you want to implement a password for security, so they ask you what the password is every time you call - if your inlaws are calling, they obviously won't know what the password is & they won't give them any info about you.

Answer 9

You are right. It isnt your Mother in laws business. Your husband needs to step up an dtell her to stop. You also need t talk to your credit card companies. I would get a small locked safe to put your financial stuff in. She probably wont stop so be proactive.

Answer 10

I used to have a friend who had a key to my apartment. When I met my husband, I asked for the key back. She got upset! I told her, I have my husband now, and do we have a key to your house? So, she gave the key back because she wouldn't give me a key to her house. That shut her up, lol! Boy, she has balls to call your credit card companies! good grief! I guess you can get a filing cabinet to lock all these papers up, or, you can ask for the key back, and if she don't give it back, change the locks, lol! Or, you can ask for a key to her house if you don't have a key... it's not fair for her to have a key to yours, and you don't have one for hers!!! telling your mother in law to mind her own business won't make her mind... you gotta take control of the situation =) good luck! =)