I feel that I am a very strong,independent woman but I'm scared to death of living alone,what's that about?

Answer 1

hi
you are just like me..... a very strong and independent woman............but scared of living alone..........it means that we are thinking perfectly normal......our every decision and thought have 2 sides... one positive and other negative....... if we will think only about independence or fear of being alone.....then we are mad....... its normal to think about both positive and negative aspects of life......that brings myriad colours in our life.......keep feeling like this and it will bring balance in your life....... :)

Answer 2

It sounds like we have a similar problem. I even hate to come home to an empty house. Even at my age. I know why, but thankfully I am still married. But don't like it when he's away. I know the empty house thing comes from my childhood; as I would come home from school many times and no one would be home. Dad would be at work, Mom never worked, so I expected her to be home and a sense of insecurity would begin to settle in.
Even when I was single I hated it!! I didn't like any thing about being single, to me this was alone. That fear remains with me.
But I really think it has something to do with feeling a sense of security, as we are used to having people around us all the time. It doesn't feel natural if we don't have someone at home with us.
If we do find ourselves really alone, by ourselves, it is a good time to reflect on what we have done with our lives; and how we can have a better relationship with our Higher Power, and live according to his will instead of our own. (I know easier said........)

Answer 3

Hi,
There is absolutely nothing wrong in feeling this way. It's perfectly normal to think along the lines of "I'm alone. What happens if something goes wrong and I need help? What happens if I need someone to take me to the doctors? What happens if....." Not just women but men too can feel this way, especially when going to live on your own for the first time. It can be frightening and it's only normal to be scared.

Answer 4

It's alittle scary for some people at first.
My first apartment didn't have a phone.
Things felt alot better when I got one.

You'll be fine.
Keep important numbers handy.

Answer 5

I reckon we've been conditioned to expect to live with someone, especially a man. It just is.

This is something that once you do it, the fear will leave. You will see that you can indeed survive and thrive on your own. You just have to dare to make that first step.

Answer 6

You are obviously concerned about these feeling, so it is good to try to find out what is bothering you, and possibly be able to make changes in your life so you feel more secure.

Personally, I experienced the same feelings in my life when I was in my early 20s. I had a roommate, and we used to go out almost every night. However, if she had a date and I stayed home alone, I just about went crazy, and had to leave to go somewhere.

Looking back to 40 years ago, now I can understand my fear because I was insecure with myself. Once I came to know my Higher Power (God for me), I knew who I was and was secure in that fact. Now, I actually relish being alone, and always have tons of projects to do.

Try to keep yourself busy, take a class in self-defense, get a pet, read some self-help books that cater to your weaknesses, chose and start a new hobby, find a therapist to discuss this with, and read the best book of all—the Bible. Concentrate on the positive, and the negative will disappear. Blessings!

Answer 7

You offend the guys so you havent got a boyfriend. Are all your friends hitching up?

Time to change your attitude...