His father left when he was 14 months old and I have no real contact infomation.
2007-10-04 23:32:04 · 5 answers · asked by dramaqueen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what ever happen between the two of you ....should stay between the two of you.....he's a little to young to understand right now......but if he should ask....its all going to depend on what you say about his father.....just don't let your personal feelings about his dad affect what you say about him....as your son gets older he'll see for himself
2007-10-05 01:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For now, I would say just make up excuses. That he is away as in he is NOT in the area. When you child gets older you can explain things to him. BUT I myself would be totally honest when he is old enough. I myself am in the exact same position. My daughter (adopted) had NOT heard or seen her father in many many years. I as well as her mother DID NOT stop him from seeing her. The only DEMAND that I had was if he wanted to see her then I wanted him to give my wife a bank book in MY daughters name (his daughter) with a minimum of $50,000.00 dollars. This would be her money for ALL BACK child support that he never ever payed. When our daughter reached her teen years we told her outright that her father did not want to be part of her life. I adopted her after I married her mother and my daughter was given the option if she wanted me to adopt her or not. SHE made the choice that I adopt her. She has since met her father and has even moved in with him and is now living back home and she now knows and believes everything that her mother and I have told her. I do wish you the best in this and hope that ti all works out for you.
2007-10-05 08:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's older, tell him the truth, and thank your lucky stars, he's not meddling in his life, just to screw it up when he gets older. Kids are resilient, and any questions about daddy are in passing. If he hasn't been around enough for the boy to miss him, then you have the opportunity to show him a good life, and maybe a dad that will love him and raise him with you. He'll grow up just fine, as long as the daddy issue doesn't become an issue.
2007-10-05 06:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is to young to know the difference right now. Best to not say anything about his dad at all, good, bad, or other. He will grow and it will not effect him not having a dad. If you press the issue, you may cause learning disabilities, or stress, or worse, a troublesome child. Best to just leave it alone.
2007-10-05 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have to tell, unless asked.
I doubt a 5 year old is to difficult to tell the truth on this one. Just simply say if asked: I DON'T KNOW!!
2007-10-05 06:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋