How can i get this guy who isnt in my classes or grade to notice me? i only see him round school at lunch or interval. what small things can i do to get him to notice me? should i try waking in to him "accidently"? i need tips :)
2007-10-04 23:14:39 · 11 answers · asked by Your A DWARF ON STILTS!!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Flirt, the eternal art of femininity. I actually took a class in flirting once, and it was very valuable, it taught me how to start a conversation with some unknown person.
2007-10-04 23:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand exactly what ur going through, but being cowardly and extremely shy can lead another person to believe that there is no need to notice u. i won't say being shy is a big prob, it's just extreme shyness that causes trouble. being so shy can hide the other person's attempt to ask u out. for example if ur so shy that u can't even face him, he'll think that u don't like him so u don't wanna see him, he might like even be getting ready to ask u out. u should just go up to him and ask him how he is doing, these small converstaions could lead up to larger conversations. be friendly and nice. befriend him first, get to know him, just incase, u know, to know him better. then eventually, it'll grow into something more. don't worry. if u can't go to him, then maybe u could ask ur closest friend the situation, ask him/her about what to do or just tell him/her to go ask that guy what he thinks of u. but, i'd say the first way is the best way to go, since u'll get to know him personally, and he'll know u too, which can lead him to develope feelings toward u, if he already doesn't. remember play it cool, be kind and he's all ur's! Good Luck
2007-10-04 23:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by bladebreakers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to start is a beautiful smile!
If he happens to look in your direction, look at him and give a warm and beautiful smile. Keep doing it and gradually, if you were to bump near him, small talk will occur then acquaintance will happen.
Just remember this, don't RUSH or tell him that you love him, you might just scare him off! Take it real easy and slowly...
Also, I realize people have suggested flirting but I don't recommend it. Just be yourself! Never act to impress him, just be yourself... true love is when someone loves the person's character and everything! Not his or her '2nd character' side.
2007-10-04 23:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,, here's a tip, if you can see him everywhere, or so i mean, you can see him a lot around school, you should at first try to get eye contact with him long enough. just trying to say in ur look that "i think i've seen you before" (don't forget to lwet out a really really small smile at first) and then, try to do it alot.. and then when the time comes, tell him, "i see you around here a lot. hi.. im_ by the way. and you are?" and then don't forget to smile.>!
2007-10-04 23:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by coollipsicles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to so is to just try to talk to him. Go up to him and try saying hinjustbtrynuour best to start a conversation with him. If things like that don't work and you want to get him out of your head you just have to try. I know it is very frustrating but you just need to it would be better for yourself. Hope I helped!
2016-05-21 06:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation.
Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. Any guy who does want a fake kind of girl is not a guy whose attention is worth having. Resist the temptation to put on a show or to do anything that just isn't you just to get his attention.
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye. Try being that tough girl who is different from all the other okay looking girls giving him the eyes, because beauty is common, but a good outlook and a great energy are very rare.
Smile and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.
Flirt. Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. If he reacts and you don't think its real (he's just doing it because you're there and you're a girl and he thinks he can do better, let him know he can't). If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don't think he is 'all that'. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.
Try to be around him often, such as sitting near him. Take interest in the activities he's interested in, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons. (But never pretend to love something you don't even like just because he likes it! Although most guys find this cute, when and if they ever find out, it can be painful for you, and usually unnecessary.)
Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help. a good Opener is spray two different perfumes on each wrist, then go up to him and ask him his favorite. this should get him to talk to you. Also befriend his friends to help him feel more comfortable around you.
You are the girl. You have the power. A lot of guys are shy and awkward around girls they like, so don't hold back. Do what you want to do. Boys like a powerful girl. Be decisive. Tell him what you want him to do, etc.--just don't get too bossy!
Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
Be brave and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.
Don't be a slob! It's a real turn-off for a guy when he notices a girl hasn't brushed her hair or wears the same outfit every other day. Clothes, makeup, and jewelry are the typical items many guys expect girls to wear. Even if you don't fall within the typical expectations, just looking presentable is always desirable--irrespective of who is the guy or girl.
2007-10-04 23:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by *Natalie.* :P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for the most part becoming friends with a man first will give you the background for a good relationship. don't throw yourself at him or come on too strong so to speak,be friends first and see what is in his heart.
2007-10-04 23:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
everyone can give you tips on accidentally asking him out or whatever, just bump into him and say hi. Introduce yourself and then do it again and ask him out. My parents are happily married and my mom asked out my dad, he loved it.
2007-10-04 23:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by repscottsdale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and talk to him say hello what classes you got next fancy skipping a few and see what he says
2007-10-04 23:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by toon l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave messages for him on his locker written in your own blood. That is sure to capture his attention.
2007-10-04 23:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋