Im 18, my girlfriend is 16. We've had a long distance relationship for over 2 years and get to see eachother about once a month. anyways, I love her and my plan was to move to Missouri (She lives in Missouri, I in Kentucky) after I graduated and go to college there to be with her, and then we could be together you know? Well I have been talking about my career choice to her for a while, and at first she was okay with it, untill i told her shed have to move with me to L.A. or Nashville for the career I want. (I'm going to be a recording engineer and eventually a producer of a recording studio and one day found my own. I know people will say "dont have big expectations in the music industry, but I have family that actually work in a recording studio in Nashville as a stuido musician, and in L.A. that work on post production audio for Dreamworks, so I have connections. Im getting a major in buisness, a minor in music, and going to recording school) Well when she found out that we would have to move she said that if I chose this career choice, that she would not go with me. She said she wouldnt move for me (although im moving to missouri for her), because she doesnt want to be away from her family. I dont want to give up my dreams as I love audio engineering (I currently do recording work in a studio in my basement i built). Should I follow my dreams, and pursue this carreer, or give it up and stay with her?
2007-10-04 21:55:15 · 10 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this the same girl who wants to have sex with someone else on a cruise?
I already told yo to dump her...she's a manipulating bad egg.
Come on...think of your future and stop pandering to this spoilt brat of a 16 year old.
Good luck in your chosen career!
2007-10-04 21:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said that you love her. But does she really love you? My suggestion is to know first if she loves you. If so, explore what sacrifice both of you can make to let your relationship work. There is no love without sacrifice of personal interests. You have to also evaluate the pros and cons of abandoning the job and being away from family.
If you are really meant for each other, one of you will give up the career or enmeshment with the family one day to be together. Otherwise it can't be helped.
In a Biblical sense, husband is the head of wife and so body moves where the head wants to move.
Best wishes!
2007-10-04 22:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rev. Dr. Davis P. Tharayil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
This must be incredibly difficult for you. You are both so young... In all honesty it sounds as if she is a bit controlling. She is perhaps upset that you could even think of chasing your dreams and she may feel left on the sidelines. But if you both do love each other then she may come out to be with you. Go get those dreams baby, dont give yourself the chance to screw it all up and end up working in a taco bell being furious at you and her for it all. good luck.
2007-10-04 21:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by plucknhammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gave,up playing music .on the rode for a girlfriend .it wuss .the.biggest mu, stake i aver mad in my life. sounds like you .got it going on !.you are to young ,to give up ,a career that.haste ,Evin be gun.music is a hard life.but it's a good ,life.and studio work is the boom!! .you will love L.A. nashville ,is evon harder. evary ding ,dong in the world go's.thear . NO!!! .DO.NOT,STOP !!!!! yore career.you will love the ,life of music . p.s. missouri .is not the plass ,to be? have lot's of fun .and good ,LUCK!!!!.
2007-10-04 23:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 16. She will probably feel very differently when she is 20 or 25.
I think you should pursue your education and dream, and hope that she will see that your plans could be exciting.
2007-10-04 21:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your lady buddy is youthful. What you're asking her to do, she would somewhat no longer be waiting for one in all those massive selection to would desire to make. have you ever asked her what she planned to do after severe college? If she became making plans on going to college? lots of people who've constantly had close ties with kinfolk can't merely up and depart while they turn 18. that includes adulthood and existence stories, which i'm particular she has no longer won yet. Im 24 and final year I met a guy and fell in love. he's interior the music industry additionally and strikes returned & forth from VA to l.a. so while he became going returned to los angelas i presumed i became waiting to circulate and that i did. a week later i walked out on him and went returned living house. Yea, twisted up on my section, yet i had under no circumstances been so some distance from kinfolk formerly and it didnt hit me until then how plenty i nonetheless mandatory them. besides, i merely needed i had positioned some greater concept into it. besides, he ended up coming returned to VA we've been given a place jointly. i will furnish l. a. yet another danger as quickly as the hire is up. however the factor i became attempting to make became, you will desire to do what you experience is nice for you. in case you like her and think of you too will rather artwork out for the long-term then do no longer supply up on her, on an analogous time you will desire to no longer would desire to positioned your desires on carry. She continues to be youthful and has plenty to adventure. the two one in all you do. I dont think of you will desire to be disillusioned at her for no longer desirous to up and circulate. i in my opinion think of it somewhat is sensible on her section. She would desire to attend til she is waiting. you will desire to appreciate that. The question is what are you keen to sacrifice, if something. Youcould proceed the long term relationship. yet following your desires would restrict that. you will desire to commit your self to a minimum of one or the different in any different case there will be stress on one end if no longer the two.
2016-12-14 08:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur dreams or u will be unhappy for the rest of ur life and in time u will hate her for this. u're only 18, u have a lot of time in front of u. girlfriends there r everywhere. do what's important for u...YOUR CAREER.....no matter if ppl don't belive in it, it's very important for u to belive in it.
she doesn't want to leave her family for u....u shouldn't leave urself for her.
2007-10-04 22:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Altheea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I had already answered this question. I said you should follow your dreams.
2007-10-04 21:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by ninfasflowersngifts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You follow your dreams,she'll follow you if she loves you.
2007-10-04 22:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** that b*tch. if you get a good job, don't let her hold you back.
2007-10-04 21:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by qballer1120 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋